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Discussion => Off topic => Topic started by: davidkelly on January 08, 2013, 05:44 am
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Have you ever been cheated on by a girlfriend/boyfriend? Ever cheated on you're girlfriend/boyfriend? I've been cheated on a couple times, when you're girlfriend/boyfriend has been cheating on you, especially if they have been doing on regularly behind you're back, it's one of the worst feelings in the world when you find out about it.
One of the worst ones for me was my sons mom a couple years ago, I read a email she sent to her friend talking about it, she was fucking the guy who lived a couple doors down from us. I was crushed, I hadn't suspected anything was going on, she swore she would never stray again and we tried to work it out for my son. Only problem is she's bipolar and totally fucking crazy in the head. (why is it the totally crazy bitches are always the most fertile?! lol) So a couple months later found out she was cheating again, and then I started cheating because she was and our relationship was terrible by then. So needless to say when we broke up it was no big deal because we hated each other and didn't care.
I cheated on a girlfriend once because we had been going out for a couple months but she said she wasn't ready for sex yet. I only did it once, I was drunk and I regretted so much the next day. Felt so guilty about it, but I never ended up telling her. We broke up a couple months later anyway though
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I found out that my ex was cheating basically the whole time we were together, with as many as 3 different guys. I found out months after I broke up with her and already hated the bitch by then anyway, so I wasn't really phased by it. Interestingly enough she was bipolar too.
Makes me glad that I didn't take her up on her offer to remain fuckbuddies, she's probably got monkey aids by now.
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This lol. Any girl who tells you she is bipolar, run far far away as fast as you can, for your own sanity, because she is completely and totally fucking crazy in the head. I'v dated 2 bipolar girls and they are the craziest girls i'v ever been with. One of them punched me in the face when I was sleeping, because she had a dream I was cheating on her and she went into a rage. She also stabbed the bed right next to me with a big ass kitchen knife, when we were fighting and she was in a crazy rage. Good thing we broke up like 2 months later cause she probably would have eventually stabbed me for real.
If you ever do date a bipolar chick, be safe, wear a fucking condom, even if shes on the pill. As a girl with bipolar, shes hundreds of times more likely to get pregnant than you're average girl.
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This lol. Any girl who tells you she is bipolar, run far far away as fast as you can, for your own sanity, because she is completely and totally fucking crazy in the head. I'v dated 2 bipolar girls and they are the craziest girls i'v ever been with. One of them punched me in the face when I was sleeping, because she had a dream I was cheating on her and she went into a rage. She also stabbed the bed right next to me with a big ass kitchen knife, when we were fighting and she was in a crazy rage. Good thing we broke up like 2 months later cause she probably would have eventually stabbed me for real.
If you ever do date a bipolar chick, be safe, wear a fucking condom, even if shes on the pill. As a girl with bipolar, shes hundreds of times more likely to get pregnant than you're average girl.
I don't know, I don't think bipolar is as bad as all that. Not if it's well managed. Borderline personality disorder though... that's another story altogether. Fuck that.
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Pretty sure all women are bipolar guys, some less than others.
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This lol. Any girl who tells you she is bipolar, run far far away as fast as you can, for your own sanity, because she is completely and totally fucking crazy in the head. I'v dated 2 bipolar girls and they are the craziest girls i'v ever been with. One of them punched me in the face when I was sleeping, because she had a dream I was cheating on her and she went into a rage. She also stabbed the bed right next to me with a big ass kitchen knife, when we were fighting and she was in a crazy rage. Good thing we broke up like 2 months later cause she probably would have eventually stabbed me for real.
If you ever do date a bipolar chick, be safe, wear a fucking condom, even if shes on the pill. As a girl with bipolar, shes hundreds of times more likely to get pregnant than you're average girl.
I don't know, I don't think bipolar is as bad as all that. Not if it's well managed. Borderline personality disorder though... that's another story altogether. Fuck that.
Shit, forgot about borderline personality disorder, that is some crazy ass shit lol. The one who tried to stab me had borderline personality disorder too, and both of the girls i dated with bipolar were not getting treatment. But you are right, some people are fine with bipolar, just seems like the craziest girls always end up being bipolar or have borderline personality disorder (the worst one probably). I'm just speaking from personal experience :) And I also tend to be attracted to crazy girls for some reason lol
Pretty sure all women are bipolar guys, some less than others.
LOL
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I don't know, I don't think bipolar is as bad as all that. Not if it's well managed. Borderline personality disorder though... that's another story altogether. Fuck that.
Truthfully I'm not entirely sure that it was bipolar disorder, but any mental illness is bad news. I just want to find a nice, normal girl who shares my fascination with all things psychedelia. Is that too much to ask? :(
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Jesus. I actually had a somewhat similar thing happen to me, I don't know what it is with crazy bitches and pretending to be pregnant. What do they expect to gain from it?
Also what is 4mg LSD like? The most I've done is 500ug and even on that I find the body high to be so intense during the comeup that it's almost uncomfortable. Would love to try a ridiculous dose like that one day but unfortunately LSD is expensive as dick and impossible to find
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I think it's worth noting that the LD50 is estimated as 12mg. That means he took a third of a dose that's expected to kill 50% of those who ingest it, just FYI.
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When I was younger I used to think I would never cheat on someone, its so bad blah blah.
Then I went out with a cheating whore for a few years and she changed my perception after cheating on me a number of times.
I used to think 'have to get them before they get you'. Over the last few years though I have relised not everyone is a cheating whore.
And yeah like you said its the worst feeling... especially when you are young and in first relationship and believe said cheating whore when they say it will never happen again... I suppose its all part of the learning experience.
and oh my god don't get me started on the crazies. I have so many stories from this one other girl. She was a REAL stalker, all though never cheated on me which was nice :-)
These 2 stories are 1000% real. - She tells me one day she is pregnant with my kid... that was before we did anything which could of got her pregnant...................
another time when I wanted to break up with her she said she would kill herself (she had said it 100 times before) so i finally give in and i'm like ok well.. off you go then... an hour passes... she texts me back saying she has NOW killed her self...
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i could tell you all the most fucked up story!!
but it would 100% giveaway my identity to anyone trying..
i'll try to be broad.. try anyway..
a good homie's ol lady hooked me up with one of her friends, it was sweet.. i cruised by to burn one, not knowing shit, and she was already there.. this blonde fake tittied hotty. i thought i was there to smoke weed, but my homie's ol lady planned this whole thing.. i literally went to his office to roll one and she followed me in closing the door.. taking her shirt off and basically raped me.. it was fucking awesome!! until my homie busted open the door (completely interupting) and yelled that her husband was here.. husband?!? not only did she have a husband, he was a fucking sheriff!!
i was out that window so fucking fast!! i ended up fucking her for like 2 or 3 years.. all i have to say is that it ended UGLY!!!
true story..
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basically raped me.. it was fucking awesome!!
I lost it
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Where the fuck are you guys finding these lunatics?? I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say maybe these crazy chicks are drawn to druggies? Although. I imagine my man might call me bipolar if I ever run out of pot.
Back to topic. I have been on every side of this equation (cheater, cheatee, other women). The first time I got cheated on was by a bf in high school. That especially sucked since he took my vCard like a month prior. Douche.
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Maybe these crazy chicks gravitate towards drugs and druggies or maybe drug users gravitate towards mental illness.
Incidentally i have a mate who is bipolar and the only thing that works for him when he feels bipolary is a load of crack. Never uses it otherwise.
Throws up when he does it but it seems to calm the fucker down.
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Me and a few friends rented a house together.
One of my friends had a girlfriend and they got along really great. For a while. Then she decided that she liked me.
She thought she broke it off with my buddy / roommate. He hadn't really gotten the clue.
Everyone knew we were fucking but it never really seemed like the right time to talk to him and say "Hey, you know this is going on right?"
One night he was working late so she came over. We were in stealth mode. Didn't want to be all in his face. So she parked her car down the road and I picked her up. We fucked. Like mad. Then I went to drive her home right before he was going to get back.
We hopped in my old Dodge, drove down the only road off the street and into the main intersection. Made a left hand turn and the car stalled.
Right in the middle of the road.
It was the carburetor. It always was the carb going around turns.
It was all right, I had a can of carb starter, basically just a spary can of gas the primes the carb and gets it firing again.
I sprayed some on the carb like I had done countless times before.
I was in a bit of a hurry.
I sprayed a bit too much.
My entire engine lit up in flames.
Our effort at being sneaky had failed somewhat. We eventually got the fire out before my buddy caught us.
A few weeks later she was over. We were having some LOUD sex. Everyone was home but I was young and rude. When we were done we emerged from my room sweaty and her in my t-shirt. My buddy pulled her aside, took her into his room saying we need to talk, and then asked her, sweat dripping down her face onto my shirt:
"Are you seeing someone else?"
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Nah, infidelity is for losers. I'm a one woman man and proud of it.
There 'aint no aphrodisiac like love baby...
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Me and a few friends rented a house together.
One of my friends had a girlfriend and they got along really great. For a while. Then she decided that she liked me.
She thought she broke it off with my buddy / roommate. He hadn't really gotten the clue.
Everyone knew we were fucking but it never really seemed like the right time to talk to him and say "Hey, you know this is going on right?"
One night he was working late so she came over. We were in stealth mode. Didn't want to be all in his face. So she parked her car down the road and I picked her up. We fucked. Like mad. Then I went to drive her home right before he was going to get back.
We hopped in my old Dodge, drove down the only road off the street and into the main intersection. Made a left hand turn and the car stalled.
Right in the middle of the road.
It was the carburetor. It always was the carb going around turns.
It was all right, I had a can of carb starter, basically just a spary can of gas the primes the carb and gets it firing again.
I sprayed some on the carb like I had done countless times before.
I was in a bit of a hurry.
I sprayed a bit too much.
My entire engine lit up in flames.
Our effort at being sneaky had failed somewhat. We eventually got the fire out before my buddy caught us.
A few weeks later she was over. We were having some LOUD sex. Everyone was home but I was young and rude. When we were done we emerged from my room sweaty and her in my t-shirt. My buddy pulled her aside, took her into his room saying we need to talk, and then asked her, sweat dripping down her face onto my shirt:
"Are you seeing someone else?"
LOL Diamond.
So no more of this now that you're... married?
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I've been cheated by life...
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I've been cheated by life...
You're better off than those who haven't discovered SR 8)
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LOL Diamond.
So no more of this now that you're... married?
Yeah no more sneaking around for me. My wife gets along great with my mistress and my girlfriend so it works out really well. I used to think I was a selfish disk wanting all the girls to myself but then I saw this documentary on sex talking about polyamory and I was like, I'm not a dick, I'm polyamorous and that's a freaking Greek word so you know it's a good one.
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LOL Diamond.
So no more of this now that you're... married?
Yeah no more sneaking around for me. My wife gets along great with my mistress and my girlfriend so it works out really well. I used to think I was a selfish disk wanting all the girls to myself but then I saw this documentary on sex talking about polyamory and I was like, I'm not a dick, I'm polyamorous and that's a freaking Greek word so you know it's a good one.
Ooooo so can I be your cyber mistress? :-* :-*
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In the long run it always hurts a lot more cheating then being cheated on.
After you cheat you have to live with yourself forever after :(
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In the long run it always hurts a lot more cheating then being cheated on.
After you cheat you have to live with yourself forever after :(
Personally I think that depends entirely on the circumstances, but that's just me.
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In the long run it always hurts a lot more cheating then being cheated on.
After you cheat you have to live with yourself forever after :(
So my dad was a painter and he could find beauty in any woman and bring it out on canvas. I can't paint but I can love and when I see that beauty in someone it's hard not to love them. I don't know that it hurts me or them or anyone really. Most people, if you took a random sample of the population, have a deficiency of love. I'm just there to help balance the scales. Monogamy actually seems rather selfish to me. I'm only with my wife a few hours a day, why let the rest of the day go to waste by not loving whoever I can? Doesn't mean I love my wife less, if anything it helps me appreciate her more.
The only thing guilt inspiring is if you decide to lie about it which is just silly. Maybe it's just a portion of the population is born with the monogamy gene and a smaller portion without it. For those of us that lack it, trying to be with one person is a comfortable as trying to be with the opposite sex when you are gay. So now that I'm out of my closet as it were, I just don't fight it. I can comfortably love several people at once and I'm okay with that.
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In the long run it always hurts a lot more cheating then being cheated on.
After you cheat you have to live with yourself forever after :(
So my dad was a painter and he could find beauty in any woman and bring it out on canvas. I can't paint but I can love and when I see that beauty in someone it's hard not to love them. I don't know that it hurts me or them or anyone really. Most people, if you took a random sample of the population, have a deficiency of love. I'm just there to help balance the scales. Monogamy actually seems rather selfish to me. I'm only with my wife a few hours a day, why let the rest of the day go to waste by not loving whoever I can? Doesn't mean I love my wife less, if anything it helps me appreciate her more.
The only thing guilt inspiring is if you decide to lie about it which is just silly. Maybe it's just a portion of the population is born with the monogamy gene and a smaller portion without it. For those of us that lack it, trying to be with one person is a comfortable as trying to be with the opposite sex when you are gay. So now that I'm out of my closet as it were, I just don't fight it. I can comfortably love several people at once and I'm okay with that.
Logically I agree with you in absolutely every way; despite that, it still hurts when someone chooses to be with someone else instead of me. Don't get me wrong, a bit of jealousy isn't necessarily a bad thing, but all the logic in the world doesn't do a damn bit of good convincing my heart to feel differently.
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In the long run it always hurts a lot more cheating then being cheated on.
After you cheat you have to live with yourself forever after :(
So my dad was a painter and he could find beauty in any woman and bring it out on canvas. I can't paint but I can love and when I see that beauty in someone it's hard not to love them. I don't know that it hurts me or them or anyone really. Most people, if you took a random sample of the population, have a deficiency of love. I'm just there to help balance the scales. Monogamy actually seems rather selfish to me. I'm only with my wife a few hours a day, why let the rest of the day go to waste by not loving whoever I can? Doesn't mean I love my wife less, if anything it helps me appreciate her more.
The only thing guilt inspiring is if you decide to lie about it which is just silly. Maybe it's just a portion of the population is born with the monogamy gene and a smaller portion without it. For those of us that lack it, trying to be with one person is a comfortable as trying to be with the opposite sex when you are gay. So now that I'm out of my closet as it were, I just don't fight it. I can comfortably love several people at once and I'm okay with that.
Logically I agree with you in absolutely every way; despite that, it still hurts when someone chooses to be with someone else instead of me. Don't get me wrong, a bit of jealousy isn't necessarily a bad thing, but all the logic in the world doesn't do a damn bit of good convincing my heart to feel differently.
I'm sort of a zen guy, I think every little thing in the world happens for a reason. I'm in the single best, longest lasting relationship of my life because of all the broken hearts, mine and others, that have paved the way. I think I was functionally incapable of selfless love until I went through all the stuff I have in my life so far. I love every broken heart I have suffered and the tiny bit of humility it has granted so that I could finally get to a point where I could appreciate completely the people that I do love.
If I had gone all in on the first girl I loved I would likely be someone I hated right now. I needed to get a few broken hearts and to suffer a little to get to be the person I wanted to become.
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LOL Diamond.
So no more of this now that you're... married?
Yeah no more sneaking around for me. My wife gets along great with my mistress and my girlfriend so it works out really well. I used to think I was a selfish disk wanting all the girls to myself but then I saw this documentary on sex talking about polyamory and I was like, I'm not a dick, I'm polyamorous and that's a freaking Greek word so you know it's a good one.
Ooooo so can I be your cyber mistress? :-* :-*
It's possible... we'd have to go out on a few virtual dates and see if our download speeds are compatible. I tried rushing into one of these cyber relationships a few years ago only to find out that the girl was on 144k ISDL connection and it totally screwed with the chat sex... I had to wait like 30 seconds just to find out that she had faked an orgasm for me so I could bust a nut. Not getting into that mess again!
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Nah, infidelity is for losers. I'm a one woman man and proud of it.
There 'aint no aphrodisiac like love baby...
mmhmm glad to hear it girl, preach it ;)
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In the long run it always hurts a lot more cheating then being cheated on.
After you cheat you have to live with yourself forever after :(
Personally I think that depends entirely on the circumstances, but that's just me.
Yeah, I'm 100% biased not really fair haha
I've just been on both sides of that situation before, and I know which one will haunt me until the day I die.
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Jesus. I actually had a somewhat similar thing happen to me, I don't know what it is with crazy bitches and pretending to be pregnant. What do they expect to gain from it?
That you stay with them, or in other words, put up with their crazy shit that you'd never normal tolerate!
Growing up we are all told that men are born cheaters, and that they are genetically programed to do so (spread the seed far and wide etc).
In my experience it's more often the women who do the cheating! Think you how many guys you know who've been cheated on by their girls? IDK maybe it's just an English thing, the women here have more balls than the average man. ;D
Cheating is the worst, and it contravenes the International Declaration of Human Rights as it's a form of cruel and in-human punishment. Na, but seriously, my parents split because of cheating and I was even cheated on once (yer, I know! It's hard to believe ;D). Once they've cheated it's impossible to rebuild the same trust. The line has been crossed!
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Wow, this thread is just what I needed right now to calm the FUK down. Thank you sane-cyper-people-who-I-feel-more-connected-to-everyday
Diamond: I don't know if you revisited my sex thread yet but I didn't actually PM you. But now I feel like I need to... and not because I want to try out that mistress thing (I'm in public :-[ ) but for advice...
TK, you really feel guilty forever?
SS: :-* :-*
Zen: are you saying uk girls are slutty? or just more likely to cheat? Because I've always thought brits in general were just more open sexually and (sorry?) promiscuous. My theory is based on one quick visit to London, David Bowie, reality shows, Jessa from Girls, and the (maybe) 10-15 people I've actually known from there. It's a little intimidating, actually. It's like all of you know EXACTLY what you're doing in the sack and we're (americans) are just a bunch of amateurs.
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Wow, this thread is just what I needed right now to calm the FUK down. Thank you sane-cyper-people-who-I-feel-more-connected-to-everyday
Diamond: I don't know if you revisited my sex thread yet but I didn't actually PM you. But now I feel like I need to... and not because I want to try out that mistress thing (I'm in public :-[ ) but for advice...
TK, you really feel guilty forever?
SS: :-* :-*
Zen: are you saying uk girls are slutty? or just more likely to cheat? Because I've always thought brits in general were just more open sexually and (sorry?) promiscuous. My theory is based on one quick visit to London, David Bowie, reality shows, Jessa from Girls, and the (maybe) 10-15 people I've actually known from there. It's a little intimidating, actually. It's like all of you know EXACTLY what you're doing in the sack and we're (americans) are just a bunch of amateurs.
Hehe, hit me up anytime TB, I'm a sage old writter who always has something to say on everything.
Such as the fact that we in America often forget that this nation was FOUNDED by the prudes (we called them Puritans) who didn't think the Brit's were quite pious enough for our tastes. Remember, it was those frisky Brit's that came up with the whole idea of divorce. Long live the Queen!
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So I'm not particularly proud of this, but I've been the third part of the cheater/cheatee relationship... accessory.
and it ROCKED. You know how good it felt to have a girl cheat for you? And leave him for you? I knew it was 'wrong', but I was too damn proud of myself. He wasn't right for her, is what I told myself, (and what she told me), and there was a lot of validity to that - didn't change the fact that I knew she had a bf and went through with the fun stuff.
Of course, not too long after, I went out the same way he did. And it hurt, a lot, but the whole process still thrilled me.
Now, to be clear on cheating: She only emotionally cheated on him; (things got physical after they broke up) (the day after) (she claimed she had some scruples) (when I went out, it was by her hooking up with the new guy. In front of me.)
EDIT: Below this line is some wet-blanket stuff. But I really felt like I needed to say it. Anyway, everyone in this thread already knows it, I just knee-jerked because I realized some of it for myself.
My first reaction is to post my story here, but fellas, lets keep some smarts about us.
These are forums for a highly illegal black market. We KNOW these pages are scraped and everything ever posted on them exists in multiple LE and other agency databases. Stories like these, from a member's hundreds of posts, could very easily begin to narrow down a personality profile. Even your writing style will eventually begin to show itself to the extend that analysis software can begin sifting and coming up with matches.
Have a fun social time, describe your events and experiences - but these kinds of stories, that may have details far more specific than a trip report or other discussions, seem like a really bad idea.
Not to rain on your parade. Just remember where you are. Maybe make a second account so you can take part in the personal stories - an account that won't have ANYTHING illegal on it - no trip reports, no talking about packages you received from what vendor, etc.
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My first reaction is to post my story here, but fellas, lets keep some smarts about us.
These are forums for a highly illegal black market. We KNOW these pages are scraped and everything ever posted on them exists in multiple LE and other agency databases. Stories like these, from a member's hundreds of posts, could very easily begin to narrow down a personality profile. Even your writing style will eventually begin to show itself to the extend that analysis software can begin sifting and coming up with matches.
Have a fun social time, describe your events and experiences - but these kinds of stories, that may have details far more specific than a trip report or other discussions, seem like a really bad idea.
Not to rain on your parade. Just remember where you are. Maybe make a second account so you can take part in the personal stories - an account that won't have ANYTHING illegal on it - no trip reports, no talking about packages you received from what vendor, etc.
On a related note, I am opening a vendor account to sell tin-foil hats in case anyone feels they might need them...
I could write a book called - ALL THE DRUGS I TOOK - publish it under my name with a big picture of me on the cover and photographs of me ingesting the different substances and face ZERO prison time. If you really think their is a division of the CIA working on documenting my sexual forays and correlating them with reported drug use in hopes of busting down my door to find at best personal use amounts of substances in my house please consider the tin-foil hat option mentioned above.
There's nothing illegal about being on a forum. There's nothing illegal about having had taken drugs. Clinton didn't get arrested for the pot he smoked did he? And he told the whole world about that. It's illegal to buy, sell and possess drugs. I have no intention of writing anything that will help the police get a hold of me while I am doing any of those things, other than that I love the fact that they have to sift through my bull shit as they peruse the forums looking for real information.
I know you were just giving a kind warning so sorry for the tongue in cheek response but I think you get where I'm coming from.
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My first reaction is to post my story here, but fellas, lets keep some smarts about us.
These are forums for a highly illegal black market. We KNOW these pages are scraped and everything ever posted on them exists in multiple LE and other agency databases. Stories like these, from a member's hundreds of posts, could very easily begin to narrow down a personality profile. Even your writing style will eventually begin to show itself to the extend that analysis software can begin sifting and coming up with matches.
Have a fun social time, describe your events and experiences - but these kinds of stories, that may have details far more specific than a trip report or other discussions, seem like a really bad idea.
Not to rain on your parade. Just remember where you are. Maybe make a second account so you can take part in the personal stories - an account that won't have ANYTHING illegal on it - no trip reports, no talking about packages you received from what vendor, etc.
On a related note, I am opening a vendor account to sell tin-foil hats in case anyone feels they might need them...
I could write a book called - ALL THE DRUGS I TOOK - publish it under my name with a big picture of me on the cover and photographs of me ingesting the different substances and face ZERO prison time. If you really think
There's nothing illegal about being on a forum. There's nothing illegal about having had taken drugs. Clinton didn't get arrested for the pot he smoked did he? And he told the whole world about that. It's illegal to buy, sell and possess drugs. I have no intention of writing anything that will help the police get a hold of me while I am doing any of those things, other than that I love the fact that they have to sift through my bull shit as they peruse the forums looking for real information.
I know you were just giving a kind warning so sorry for the tongue in cheek response but I think you get where I'm coming from.
LOL
My favorite part :
"their is a division of the CIA working on documenting my sexual forays and correlating them with reported drug use in hopes of busting down my door"
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TK, you really feel guilty forever?
I just will never be able to forget breaking someone like that. I'm very different now but there was a time when It was easy to "forget" my partner and just do my own thing. It really hurt when it happened to me, but thinking back nothing hurt my heart worse than caring so little about hurting someone. At the time I didn't care in the slightest, but now I feel like a monster about it.
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Cheated and been cheated on, it's a vicious cycle with bitches these days until you find the right one.
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Both...
But I usually have been the cheater unfortunately. Most people think guys cheat more, but actually women are more likely to cheat in a long term relationship or marriage.
It's a pretty terrible secret to have to carry. It's like torture.
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i cheated on my first gf with a guy we were only 16 it genuinely didn't mean anything. i told her it was just a kiss but it was more. she then revenge cheated on me with her ex bf. i didn't really give a shit. i think shes gone back to men for good now. she crazy. not for liking men, shes actually crazy. borderline i think.
i managed a rather long term non cheating relationship since. this was after quitting alcohol. i wouldn't be able to have a secret affair or anything i have an annoying tendency to be honest.
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Anyways, I just got tested. Gonna tell her the three of us have chlamydia now :D
LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry to hear that....
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hahaha charming!
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maybe her bf has been screwing around too. it's one of the harder ones to detect so it could have gone unnoticed a while perhaps. that's a jokes reaction from her though. if it was a youtube video i would def give it the ol thumbs up.
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Condoms are for pussies!
jk
I hope her bf doesn't dump her, either. For the sake of your sex life, of course.
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woah lucky you don't have looming child support or a HIV+ result. unprotected sex with promiscuous people is asking for trouble!
..did this teach you anything? seriously you got really lucky it's only chlamydia
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I've always wondered why they say you catch an STD...
I mean, it's not like a leprechaun or a lucky break, it's a disease. I wasn't looking to catch anything. I think a more accurate description would be to say that chlamydia caught you rather than the other way around.
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Just figured out what "jk"means. I was looking for this guy called "jk", couldn't find him anywhere. :'(
I'll come back later as I'm busy.
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LMFAO....
This forum is full of Man whores and sluts....
I say this just getting back from a one night stand, the guy was trying to get my number but I just was like "thanks so much for paying my tab (it was at least 60 bucks, I drank a shit load and a bunch of redbulls) last night, and not letting me drive (I was pretty much falling over I drank so much.) I come here a lot, so maybe I will see you around".
Yeah, I guess I'm a slut, whatever. He was actually rather gentle and loving, which is rare in a drunken one night stand.
And yes, Condoms and BC pills were used, so I don't think I need to worry about chlamydia or getting pregnant lol.
Why is it that guys get congratulated for this, but girls are looked down on? I sometimes make a challenge to target a certain guy at a bar, get him to come over and start talking to me using subtle cues and see if I get him pay my tab and get laid. No phone numbers exchanged....kinda like a female Barney Stinson, but I'm not a total ass about it.....at least imo.
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Why is it that guys get congratulated for this, but girls are looked down on?
I can answer that in the paraphrased words of some comedian whose name I can't recall at the moment:
If you're a (heterosexual) man, trying to get into a girls pants is like picking a lock. If you're good at it, then it's like being able to crack into any safe, pick any lock. You deserve a high five.
But if you're a woman, letting a bunch of men get between your legs just makes you a shitty lock.
(I don't necessarily agree with that, but it's still funny.)
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Why is it that guys get congratulated for this, but girls are looked down on?
I can answer that in the paraphrased words of some comedian whose name I can't recall at the moment:
If you're a (heterosexual) man, trying to get into a girls pants is like picking a lock. If you're good at it, then it's like being able to crack into any safe, pick any lock. You deserve a high five.
But if you're a woman, letting a bunch of men get between your legs just makes you a shitty lock.
(I don't necessarily agree with that, but it's still funny.)
It's just sexism...
If I want to go out and get laid why the fuck should it matter? It's not like I will screw just anybody, and the funny thing is, when you don't act all needy and try to bolt in the morning for some reason the guy seems to want your number....eh whatever.
Guys are just jealous that they have to work so hard at it.
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Another accessory here.
My ex girlfriend from a long and unhealthy relationship started seeing somebody right after we 'ended', about a year ago.
curiositymatrix is right, it feels good to be in that position. All I have to do is tell her to come.. then a night of sex and drugs. Makes the whole affair more exciting. I love knowing what they're up to as well. I'm getting her used to telling me when they go on dates, when they fuck. I don't think I would be seeing her at this point if it wasn't for this fucked up dynamic.
We spent more time together than they did last fall but that can't happen anymore. Can't relapse. Being stricter with her. Its just too easy. I can't let go of the idea that I could train her ::)
I feel bad for the guy though, obviously not bad enough. When she complains about him I just see what an unreasonable bitch she's being.
Anyways, I just got tested. Gonna tell her the three of us have chlamydia now :D
HAHA that was a great unexpected twist at the end.
good luck w that, I've heard it's a two week cure and not very bad at all. No needles up your cock either
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say all you want about reproduction but its the same in homosexual culture. there will be more men getting sucked off in the bathrooms of gay clubs or up on hampstead heath *cough george michael*... cottaging, online hookups. ladies are all into the feelings side of things. some of the butch dykes are into the whole notches on your bedpost thing but it's a lot rarer. i think men just have a stronger sexual urge than women as a massive generalisation.
i'm allowed to stereotype because i bat for the same team. it's like black people being allowed to say nigger. all above board here :D
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say all you want about reproduction but its the same in homosexual culture. there will be more men getting sucked off in the bathrooms of gay clubs or up on hampstead heath *cough george michael*... cottaging, online hookups. ladies are all into the feelings side of things. some of the butch dykes are into the whole notches on your bedpost thing but it's a lot rarer. i think men just have a stronger sexual urge than women as a massive generalisation.
i'm allowed to stereotype because i bat for the same team. it's like black people being allowed to say nigger. all above board here :D
Well, damn. I guess I am just strange then.
I like casual sex on occasion. But I also like the "feelings" thing too...weird.
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nah i wouldn't say you're strange. do you go around bragging about it? or is it just because you're doing whatever the fuck you want to do?!
i used to do casual on occasion but i don't drink anymore then was in a relationship for years which i'm still getting over..
i'm sure there's quite a few women who get the urge for casual sex but societal norms(slut shaming) make them suppress them or else they have a good amount of alcohol to lose inhibitions. then there's the safety issue of men being physically stronger so who knows what could happen when you go back to his place..
i completely agree with what you said about guys being jealous because they have to work harder for it in a heterosexual sense haha
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Why is it that guys get congratulated for this, but girls are looked down on?
I've decided to just NOT GIVE A FUCK about what or who other people congratulate or look down on.
Do what you do girl 8) if somebody looks down on you for it, FUCK EM... they don't matter. The ones who are judging are unhappy and jealous and spiteful and vindictive. Feel sorry for them (or don't) and move along :)
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Why is it that guys get congratulated for this, but girls are looked down on?
I've decided to just NOT GIVE A FUCK about what or who other people congratulate or look down on.
Do what you do girl 8) if somebody looks down on you for it, FUCK EM... they don't matter. The ones who are judging are unhappy and jealous and spiteful and vindictive. Feel sorry for them (or don't) and move along :)
you go girl!!
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Why is it that guys get congratulated for this, but girls are looked down on?
I've decided to just NOT GIVE A FUCK about what or who other people congratulate or look down on.
Do what you do girl 8) if somebody looks down on you for it, FUCK EM... they don't matter. The ones who are judging are unhappy and jealous and spiteful and vindictive. Feel sorry for them (or don't) and move along :)
you go girl!!
i imagined that in the voice of oprah haha
but yeah amen to that. who gives a shit what other people think. as long as you're staying safe then be whoever you want to be...
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Don't cheat.
I know sometimes its not easy. I'm a perfect example why not to do it.
I now visit my children, pay support, and live a lonely pathetic existence.
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Why is it that guys get congratulated for this, but girls are looked down on?
I've decided to just NOT GIVE A FUCK about what or who other people congratulate or look down on.
Do what you do girl 8) if somebody looks down on you for it, FUCK EM... they don't matter. The ones who are judging are unhappy and jealous and spiteful and vindictive. Feel sorry for them (or don't) and move along :)
Tried to give you a hug via +K but couldn't as I did that yesterday. Chin up TrashBox. You know that's absolutely true? As soon as Raz starts scoring and being happy there's always a lonely girl who always has to put us both down but that's okay b/c while I'm spending time with a girl I think how lonely that person is and how they say mean things b/c they are hurt they feel inadequate and no one will love them and pick them up. So I'm more than happy to be called "cheap" b/c at least I get the girl.
Piece, Love, and Fuck Haters.
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i was cheated on by every gf i ever had except for my baby mama which then i cheated on her and the girl i left my baby mama for cheated on me with several dudes (she was a whore) and then i left her and now im back with my bm. i just dont trust bitches. no offense ladies. i do wish my gf would be willing to do an open relationship type thing. i believe you can have sex with more than one person but still only love one person. as long as your the person i come home to at night why would it be that bad? maybe its just me but i dont think its a bad idea. anyone share that belief?
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Why not. Let's get personal.
Yeah, I've been cheated on. Repeatedly. Extensively. Then I cheated on someone (a long-term affair). Then I was "the other man". And then I said never, never am I going to be on any side of this shit ever again.
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Don't cheat.
I know sometimes its not easy. I'm a perfect example why not to do it.
I now visit my children, pay support, and live a lonely pathetic existence.
+1
You've scared me straight.
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I've been the cheater and the cheated. They both suck. One is lots of guilt and the other is an ego-crusher and in general a shitty thing to experience, especially if you really cared for the other person.
I will never cheat again, nor will I allow myself to be cheated on.
If you're getting into a relationship - make the intentions clear. Let the other know exactly what you're hoping to get out of this. I've found people are happy to just spend time with you and enjoy your company and be able to fuck than to have to get into a serious relationship to be able to do that.
TL;DR: It's not worth it.
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As far as I know, I've never been cheated on.
I made out with a (different) girl while I had a long-term girlfriend once. Not sure if that counts as cheating or not.
Our relationship had gone sour, I don't regret it. Though we strangely enough did stay together for another 9 months after I told her.
I'm going to go on a bit of a rant here. I want people to understand that I am going to make some pretty large generalizations. Obviously there are examples where the following is simply not true. It's going to be focused on an overall trend, not specific cases.
In my experience with my generation, women cheat more than men. I know far more women that have cheated on their significant others than men. Some heartlessly and repeatedly. Now that's not really what statistics show, but most published statistics on infidelity focus on married couples. I'm fairly young, in my early 20's. Most of my generation is not married, and are too young to be included in those statistics, so I don't feel they apply. Like I said, I feel as though, in my generation, more women cheat than men.
It's due to the way my generation was raised, I believe. I'll explain.
First off, I believe that women are less affected than men when their partner cheats. Not that women aren't strongly affected, because they most certainly are. Just, as a whole, slightly LESS affected. Before the feminists start ranting, let me explain.
Take two identical couples. In one couple, the man cheats. In the other couple, the woman cheats. When one partner finds out the other cheated, both sexes will be equally devastated. At first. However, the woman, in my experience, recovers much more quickly than the man. Why? Not sure, that's a question for a psychiatrist. But that's been my experience. Men have a harder time recovering from relationship devastation in general, especially infidelity. Ask a marriage counselor sometime. When a man cheats in a relationship, the relationship is recoverable far more frequently. When the woman cheats? It usually signs a death knell for their marriage. Men just can't recover from being cheated on as well as women.
Now, even if you don't agree with what I just said, imagine that it is true while I explain further. That men recover slower, and have a harder time with recovery than women when cheated on.
My generation has been raised to have much more empathy than previous generations. There's no arguing with that. We are taught to value kindness and compassion much more than previous generations. ("Everyone's a winner! Here's your participation ribbon!")
Now, what is empathy? The simple explanation is that empathy is treating someone how you would like to be treated. But it's more complicated than that. Basically, when deciding how to treat someone, our generation has been raised to first consider "How would I feel if someone did this to me?" The result of this societal teaching is as follows: If you, personally, don't like it when others do something to you, you're unlikely to do it to them. For example, if you are extremely affected when someone comments on your choice in clothing, you're unlikely to comment on other people's choice in clothing. If you're extremely affected when someone laughs at you, you're unlikely to laugh at other people. If you're extremely affected when your partner ignores your text messages, you're unlikely to ignore theirs.
If you feel you'd be extremely affected when a partner cheats on you, you're unlikely to cheat on them.
Now, assume again that women are generally less affected by men's infidelity, and men are more affected. If we saw an increase in empathy within a generation, we'd see rates of male infidelity decrease, and rates of female infidelity increase.
And in my generation, that's exactly what I'm seeing. Women typically feel as though cheating is more recoverable, and males feel as though cheating causes utter devastation. So, women are becoming more likely to cheat, and men are becoming less likely to cheat.
Either way, shit sucks.
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I know a bloke who was in an awesome relationship for almost a decade. They did everything together, trusted each other totally. Partied hard, did heaps of drugs, had an awesome bunch of friends and the sex was reportedly amazing etc.... Everyone around them thought they were infinitely inseparable.
This blokes girlfriend was hard working, sexy and always had his back. Always. She was house proud and an amazing cook and they looked after each other like no couple I've ever seen. They laughed together all the time, had awesome holidays and as they both worked hard, there was never any money troubles.
Then one day a girl appeared in their life, a mutual friend who shared a passion for several of this blokes interests. She seemed a lot more intelligent than the current girlfriend and many a night was spent in deep conversation while the girlfriend slept so she could get up and work the morning shift.
This bloke became totally smitten with this other woman and started to see all sorts of things wrong with his current partner and so a torrid and intoxicating affair was born.
More and more reasons were found to dislike his current partner and soon she was unceremoniously dumped. She cried and begged for another chance but the cheater was steeled by his lust for the other woman and wouldn't even enter into any serious conversation about mediation. Her cries for forgiveness and a second chance haunt him to this day. He can still see the pain and heartbreak in her face as if it happened yesterday.
A couple of weeks go by and the "perfect girl" he ran off with became a raging psychopathic bitch.... Riddled with jealousy, issues and hate from past life and a willingness to fight to the death even when she was wrong and do and say the most terrible things. An ego that was so defensive, that the slightest sledge in jest could cause a vitriolic tirade that would make any human cower. Messy, lazy and able to justify any misdeed to herself and everyone around her.
So the bloke ran for the hills and tried so hard to get his trusty long term love back,,,,, She seemed open to the idea and spent many days with her old beau and he thought maybe, just maybe, he had a chance of reversing the greatest mistake of his life. One night she kissed him and told him that she never stopped loving him and never would, they held each other all night and his heart singed like bird.
Then the game playing started and her revenge became the aim of the game.
The next day she denied it and started to distance herself from the poor, desperate fool. He kept following her around, buying her flowers and trying to party with her like the old times but kept ending up left behind to walk home drunk, high and alone after blowing all his money on trying to re light the flame. Before he new it she had found someone else. He had to watch her new relationship blossom at various shared friend's social occasions and nearly killed himself on the month long, self destructive bender that followed.
Soon the woman he had ran off if in the first place came back and won the poor fool over again and preceded to make the next 3 years of his life a living hell.
With no self esteem left and a fear of being alone forever, he put every bit of emotional energy, love, time and money into this relationship until he was broke, losing his house, destroying his successful business and trying not to totally die inside as he watched his ex get pregnant, rich, happy and engaged. He knew she deserved it, he had broken her heart and hurt her so much when she had been the perfect partner, he knew she was going to be a great mother and he is fighting the feeling that he may never get to be the amazing father he knew he could be. He is proud of her and hopes she has an amazing life with no more pain.
He pines for his ex often and will love her until he dies but he knows the only way is forward and his current partner is slowly improving. He will stick by her and be a good man as he really does love her. They have plenty of good times and he is working really hard on forgiving her for the pain she has caused.
He lives a pitiful existence nowadays, pandering and arranging things and steering conversations around so there is no reason for this disturbed woman to cause drama and pain. He does love her though, and is optimistic that things will come good.... After all that suffering, surely they must???
He owes a lot of money, he's barely hanging on to his house and his business is going down the shitter due to a total lack of energy and maybe a touch of depression.
His sex life is amazing though but he seems to think that's just because he's an awesome, attentive and unselfish lover and always has been (pretty sure it's true).
DON'T FUCKEN CHEAT on someone who is wonderful, loyal and loves the shit out of you.
Even if you think your new obsession is "the one", you might be better off sneaking off and boning a fatty on the sly to get it out of your system.
It will hurt everyday and you will be filled with sorrow, guilt and regret
Well, that was therapeutic....... I really feel sorry for that guy. ... I think I might take him a xanax right now.
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I know a bloke who was in an awesome relationship for almost a decade. They did everything together, trusted each other totally. Partied hard, did heaps of drugs, had an awesome bunch of friends and the sex was reportedly amazing etc.... Everyone around them thought they were infinitely inseparable.
This blokes girlfriend was hard working, sexy and always had his back. Always. She was house proud and an amazing cook and they looked after each other like no couple I've ever seen. They laughed together all the time, had awesome holidays and as they both worked hard, there was never any money troubles.
Then one day a girl appeared in their life, a mutual friend who shared a passion for several of this blokes interests. She seemed a lot more intelligent than the current girlfriend and many a night was spent in deep conversation while the girlfriend slept so she could get up and work the morning shift.
This bloke became totally smitten with this other woman and started to see all sorts of things wrong with his current partner and so a torrid and intoxicating affair was born.
More and more reasons were found to dislike his current partner and soon she was unceremoniously dumped. She cried and begged for another chance but the cheater was steeled by his lust for the other woman and wouldn't even enter into any serious conversation about mediation. Her cries for forgiveness and a second chance haunt him to this day. He can still see the pain and heartbreak in her face as if it happened yesterday.
A couple of weeks go by and the "perfect girl" he ran off with became a raging psychopathic bitch.... Riddled with jealousy, issues and hate from past life and a willingness to fight to the death even when she was wrong and do and say the most terrible things. An ego that was so defensive, that the slightest sledge in jest could cause a vitriolic tirade that would make any human cower. Messy, lazy and able to justify any misdeed to herself and everyone around her.
So the bloke ran for the hills and tried so hard to get his trusty long term love back,,,,, She seemed open to the idea and spent many days with her old beau and he thought maybe, just maybe, he had a chance of reversing the greatest mistake of his life. One night she kissed him and told him that she never stopped loving him and never would, they held each other all night and his heart singed like bird.
Then the game playing started and her revenge became the aim of the game.
The next day she denied it and started to distance herself from the poor, desperate fool. He kept following her around, buying her flowers and trying to party with her like the old times but kept ending up left behind to walk home drunk, high and alone after blowing all his money on trying to re light the flame. Before he new it she had found someone else. He had to watch her new relationship blossom at various shared friend's social occasions and nearly killed himself on the month long, self destructive bender that followed.
Soon the woman he had ran off if in the first place came back and won the poor fool over again and preceded to make the next 3 years of his life a living hell.
With no self esteem left and a fear of being alone forever, he put every bit of emotional energy, love, time and money into this relationship until he was broke, losing his house, destroying his successful business and trying not to totally die inside as he watched his ex get pregnant, rich, happy and engaged. He knew she deserved it, he had broken her heart and hurt her so much when she had been the perfect partner, he knew she was going to be a great mother and he is fighting the feeling that he may never get to be the amazing father he knew he could be. He is proud of her and hopes she has an amazing life with no more pain.
He pines for his ex often and will love her until he dies but he knows the only way is forward and his current partner is slowly improving. He will stick by her and be a good man as he really does love her. They have plenty of good times and he is working really hard on forgiving her for the pain she has caused.
He lives a pitiful existence nowadays, pandering and arranging things and steering conversations around so there is no reason for this disturbed woman to cause drama and pain. He does love her though, and is optimistic that things will come good.... After all that suffering, surely they must???
He owes a lot of money, he's barely hanging on to his house and his business is going down the shitter due to a total lack of energy and maybe a touch of depression.
His sex life is amazing though but he seems to think that's just because he's an awesome, attentive and unselfish lover and always has been (pretty sure it's true).
DON'T FUCKEN CHEAT on someone who is wonderful, loyal and loves the shit out of you.
Even if you think your new obsession is "the one", you might be better off sneaking off and boning a fatty on the sly to get it out of your system.
It will hurt everyday and you will be filled with sorrow, guilt and regret
Well, that was therapeutic....... I really feel sorry for that guy. ... I think I might take him a xanax right now.
I think you've got a screenplay here man. Incredible story. I felt for it. (not to suggest its fake, I'm saying its so piquant as to be as if it were a movie)
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Fucken felt like a movie when it was happening (to that guy) :-[
Sweet, exquisite pain... Being tested to the very limit.... Makes ya feel alive I suppose. :-\
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boning a fatty on the sly
LOL
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I coaxed my best friend into cheating on her abusive boyfriend days before they broke up. We were drunk but it was AMAZING sex, 7 times in one night.
While I still feel a little bad about what I did to someone, I do have to say that it couldn't have happened to a better person.
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Quite the stories in here haha
Would I be right in saying that most (guys/girls) thinks about sleeping with someone else.
Even when in a relationship?
And would that be a bad sign
But whether its actually acted out is another thing
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Would I be right in saying that most (guys/girls) thinks about sleeping with someone else.
Even when in a relationship?
And would that be a bad sign
But whether its actually acted out is another thing
I would sayyyyyyyyyy YES, everyone in a committed relationship THINKS about sleeping with other people. But I have no idea how many act on it. I know I have.
Bad sign? Maybe. Or maybe I'm just a normal goddamned human acting on my most natural basic instincts. We're not here very long and I don't feel like denying myself the pleasures of the universe.
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DON'T FUCKEN CHEAT on someone who is wonderful, loyal and loves the shit out of you.
Even if you think your new obsession is "the one", you might be better off sneaking off and boning a fatty on the sly to get it out of your system.
It will hurt everyday and you will be filled with sorrow, guilt and regret
+1
You are so right I'm not even bothering reading other comments. I used to think it was okay to cheat and not tell, you know, it would hurt her so much, this is christian bullshit, bla bla bla, but now I have to deal with this horrible guilt and feel even more horrible not to be telling. My best half is a wonderful person like no other, and I feel like shit having done that to her.
Polygamy or cheating are not wrong intrinsically, but lying to your loved one is. Moreover, guilt is a fucking parasite that will eat you up.
We used to do psychedelics together but now we can't anymore, not because she does not want to, but because I know I would spill all the beans if asked under the influence. And I've done so much wrong to her that it would ruin her (she has some self-esteem issues stemming from childhood).
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I used to think it was okay to cheat and not tell, you know, it would hurt her so much, this is christian bullshit, bla bla bla, but now I have to deal with this horrible guilt and feel even more horrible not to be telling. My best half is a wonderful person like no other, and I feel like shit having done that to her.
Polygamy or cheating are not wrong intrinsically, but lying to your loved one is. Moreover, guilt is a fucking parasite that will eat you up.
We used to do psychedelics together but now we can't anymore, not because she does not want to, but because I know I would spill all the beans if asked under the influence. And I've done so much wrong to her that it would ruin her (she has some self-esteem issues stemming from childhood).
You think that by telling her you cheated it will hurt her more, right? You feel like you are helping the situation by not telling her while martyring yourself into a life of constant guilt. Well, IMO, I think it's better to just be 100% honest always. I agree that lying to a sig-o is wrong. But it sounds to me like you are more worried about the guilt that comes along with lying. So you don't want to cheat because you don't like feeling guilty. Period.
Have you done MDMA with her? I don't know your girl, but discussing the situation on mdma could help the two of you understand why it happened. Most everything you said here would most definitely help ME to understand why you cheated AND rid you of some of the guilt.
Then you can be comfy tripping with her, too 8)
GL whatever you choose, tho. It sounds like you truly do care and LOVE her. So that's what matters :)
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I used to think it was okay to cheat and not tell, you know, it would hurt her so much, this is christian bullshit, bla bla bla, but now I have to deal with this horrible guilt and feel even more horrible not to be telling. My best half is a wonderful person like no other, and I feel like shit having done that to her.
Polygamy or cheating are not wrong intrinsically, but lying to your loved one is. Moreover, guilt is a fucking parasite that will eat you up.
We used to do psychedelics together but now we can't anymore, not because she does not want to, but because I know I would spill all the beans if asked under the influence. And I've done so much wrong to her that it would ruin her (she has some self-esteem issues stemming from childhood).
You think that by telling her you cheated it will hurt her more, right? You feel like you are helping the situation by not telling her while martyring yourself into a life of constant guilt. Well, IMO, I think it's better to just be 100% honest always. I agree that lying to a sig-o is wrong. But it sounds to me like you are more worried about the guilt that comes along with lying. So you don't want to cheat because you don't like feeling guilty. Period.
Have you done MDMA with her? I don't know your girl, but discussing the situation on mdma could help the two of you understand why it happened. Most everything you said here would most definitely help ME to understand why you cheated AND rid you of some of the guilt.
Then you can be comfy tripping with her, too 8)
GL whatever you choose, tho. It sounds like you truly do care and LOVE her. So that's what matters :)
Perhaps you can guess I'm quite confused about this, hence the inconsistent post.
I'm not telling her because, yes, I've known her for more than five years and I know she would be devastated. Here's the situation: I've cheated on her at least seven times, and confessed only one, where it only involved oral sex. She was extremely upset, crying night and day for a week, and every now and then since. To this day she still hasn't forgiven me, even though she is still with me. When we talk about it, she still very emotional about it.
The other reason why I'm not telling her is obviously because I'm afraid of losing her, and I know that if I confess it all, she will leave me, which I understand and would probably do the same. Even if I explained that it was just pure sex without any feelings involved, she would keep her pride and go away. Far away.
And I felt many times like telling her, I couldn't stand it anymore, all those sleepless nights lying down next to her, all those guilt-consumed speechless moments, etc...In this case, I also believe that telling her would be just the easy way for me to get rid of my guilt, but it would hurt her very deeply and perhaps handicap her future relationships and her attitude towards men. Sure you'll tell me her scars will heal over time, but how long ? I've been hurt 10 years ago, by some friends, and I'm still struggling to get over it now, and I won't be able to forget anytime soon.
And really, sometimes I'd rather not know because getting deeply hurt have consequences on your life.
We're planning to take MDMA for her birthday soon, I'm not sure what's gonna happen...I've considered what may happen if I told her, but MDMA lasts only 3 hours, and then you wake up in the morning tired and depressed, thus facilitating more hurt and more sadness.
I've weighed the pros and cons here, and I think not telling will be more beneficial for both of us in the long run.
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First of all DON'T tell her on her birthday. If you do mdma then you might tell her, no? beeeee careful. She'll hate her birthday if she stays with you bc it'll remind her every year. Alternatively, she'll hate her birthday bc that's the day you two broke up.
Anyway, quite the dilemma you've got here. You cheated a whole bunch of times. naughtyyyyyy. I don't think I'd tell her if I were you. You 've been really bad. And she got really upset over what I'm assuming was a blowjob so you're right about likely getting dumped over this.
So now my advice is: if you don't want to get dumped don't tell her.
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Totally agree with TB on the birthday reveal thing. Girls tend to hold onto that stuff, they like anniversaries and shit I guess.
Honestly though the whole point of a relationship, the whole point, is to be with someone that accepts you for who you actually are. Getting fucked by a hottie is easy enough but getting that hottie to wash the sheets with a smile after you had a wet fart the night before... that's what a relationship is. It's happily dealing with other people's shit because they deal with yours.
I get it, there's history and stuff. Connections. You want it to work out because you told yourself and her it would work out but that was all based on this illusion of who you pretend to be. The relationship is based on the idea that you are faithful and you my friend like to fuck other girls. Personally I'd lay it out for her at some point and just claim to have that sex addiction thing going on. If you can get it all in the open and keep her from being all sad about it you win and if she can't deal with the truth you're not in a relationship you're in a sinking ship. Girls look all pretty and soft but I have never met a one of them that wasn't able to figure out when a man was about town. Sometimes they fake it and she might well be doing that. Sometimes it takes a while. But it always happens.
Anyway, just an old man chiming in. Been there and done that. So much happier now that I am in an honest relationship... or two.
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Yeah both.
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Personally I'd lay it out for her at some point and just claim to have that sex addiction thing going on. If you can get it all in the open and keep her from being all sad about it you win and if she can't deal with the truth you're not in a relationship you're in a sinking ship. Girls look all pretty and soft but I have never met a one of them that wasn't able to figure out when a man was about town. Sometimes they fake it and she might well be doing that. Sometimes it takes a while. But it always happens.
This reminds me of that part in Wayne's World when Wayne says "if you spew and she bails, it was never met to be"
So much happier now that I am in an honest relationship... or two.
LOL
Yeah both.
I don't believe that anyone would EVER cheat on you, Limetless :-*
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Lol well they did and thats why I cheated back.
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Lol well they did and thats why I cheated back.
Well that's one way of dealing with things ::) I wonder if it's because you are one of those that has zero time ever and she just feels neglected and cheating was the best way to get your attention.
Why do you have SR Vendor twice? They won't even give me one :'(
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Lol I am too tired to tell that tale hun.
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wholy shit limitless over 12k posts? never seen a member with that many posts lol sorry for being off topic.
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wholy shit limitless over 12k posts? never seen a member with that many posts lol sorry for being off topic.
Lol nice to meet you. :)
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Have you ever been cheated on by a girlfriend/boyfriend? Ever cheated on you're girlfriend/boyfriend? I've been cheated on a couple times, when you're girlfriend/boyfriend has been cheating on you, especially if they have been doing on regularly behind you're back, it's one of the worst feelings in the world when you find out about it.
One of the worst ones for me was my sons mom a couple years ago, I read a email she sent to her friend talking about it, she was fucking the guy who lived a couple doors down from us. I was crushed, I hadn't suspected anything was going on, she swore she would never stray again and we tried to work it out for my son. Only problem is she's bipolar and totally fucking crazy in the head. (why is it the totally crazy bitches are always the most fertile?! lol) So a couple months later found out she was cheating again, and then I started cheating because she was and our relationship was terrible by then. So needless to say when we broke up it was no big deal because we hated each other and didn't care.
I cheated on a girlfriend once because we had been going out for a couple months but she said she wasn't ready for sex yet. I only did it once, I was drunk and I regretted so much the next day. Felt so guilty about it, but I never ended up telling her. We broke up a couple months later anyway though
I personally think is inhumane to expect anyone to be faithful for the duration of an entire lifetime. I think you can love someone but want to be with other people occasionally who you also have a connection with and care about. Its impossible for one partner to meet all your needs. If you read into the history of marriage it was normal to have lovers on the side in the past until people started marrying for love and women working and then divorce rose to 50%. The fact that 50% of people get divorced tells you that a large part of the population isn't wired to be with just one person and one person only for an entire lifetime. In my head jealousy is the reason why people can't share and have an open relationship. One day I hope we have evolved so much that the survival value of the emotion of jealousy will dissipate to the point that open relationships will be the norm but we are not there yet and dont know how long it will take to get there.
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You 've been really bad. And she got really upset over what I'm assuming was a blowjob so you're right about likely getting dumped over this.
The relationship is based on the idea that you are faithful and you my friend like to fuck other girls. Personally I'd lay it out for her at some point and just claim to have that sex addiction thing going on.
Yeah, but those experiences served me as a life lesson. I thought I could handle the cheating but no, I can't. My guilt is haunting me and I hope it will diminish over time. I really want and NEED to be faithful. I've realised the mistakes I've made and how they make me feel and I won't be repeating them. Hopefully. :)
DiamondSky, a close friend of mine suggested the same thing, that I should consider telling her about the need of an open relationship, in all honesty. The concept is nice but I'm not sure I'll be able to handle it. I'll see what the future holds for me.
And yes, it would be wiser to delay the MDMA experience, indeed. Thank you all for the input.
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chil's doomed. DOOMED! what's that coming over the hill, is it a monster? no, it's doom and it's coming for you.
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When I met my wife, well the chick that I would eventually marry, she wasnt my wife then, I had slept with 11 females, she made 12.
When we got engaged, the number had risen to 16.
After appx. 18 months of engagement, on our wedding day, I had slept with a total of 23.
After nearly three years of marriage, I am at 31.
We're getting a divorce. But she has no clue.
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When I met my wife, well the chick that I would eventually marry, she wasnt my wife then, I had slept with 11 females, she made 12.
When we got engaged, the number had risen to 16.
After appx. 18 months of engagement, on our wedding day, I had slept with a total of 23.
After nearly three years of marriage, I am at 31.
We're getting a divorce. But she has no clue.
quite impressive with 12 daughters to look after, i don't know how you find the time!
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she made 12.
quite impressive with 12 daughters to look after, i don't know how you find the time!
Smart ass SLAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGG We're trying to have a serious discussion here and you gotta be all CHEEKY MONKEY
LOL, where the hell have you been, BTW?
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SERIOUS DISCUSSION?!! haha 'man got laaaid bruv! nah for real, mans got more hos than santa' lol serious discussion hahahaahahaha
i got some nice weed, the sun made a rare appearance and typing became far too much effort :D where you been grime bucket? (i anglicised your name, like what i did there?) forums like a ghost town
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When I met my wife, well the chick that I would eventually marry, she wasnt my wife then, I had slept with 11 females, she made 12.
When we got engaged, the number had risen to 16.
After appx. 18 months of engagement, on our wedding day, I had slept with a total of 23.
After nearly three years of marriage, I am at 31.
We're getting a divorce. But she has no clue.
u ever gor a cheeseburger from McDonalds and you opened it and it had no cheese? I feel like you have don that to us with your story. u left out a crucial part. why laddy?
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Yep. Was cheated on. A lot more to it but like people said its the simple things that could reveal your identity.
I will never trust another bitch ever again as long as I live and I sure as fuck wont love one either.
I dont think true love exists after this.
Bitch got some amount of free drugs too!
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i've been cheated on definetley twice, and possibly a third time, all with 3 different guys.
First one broke my heart, second I couldn't care less because I hated the guy, and third time, well it was evident from when we met he was more of an open relationship type of guy. Unconfirmed but likely he did, but I'm not too fussed about it. Monogamy isn't all it's cracked up to be.
It's a pretty funny story really lol. I know how to pick em.
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Only been cheated on once, timing couldn't have been worse, I was 18, I had a ton of money at the time, my girlfriend looked like a frickin' model, I thought she was perfect for me, so naturally I was spending lots of money buying her gifts and taking her on vacations and shit.
One day we were hanging out at my house, in the evening she told me she has to go because some relatives were visiting. I go to sleep, at about 3 a.m. phone's ringing. My buddy, drunk as shit, music playing in the backround "dude you gotta come here your gf's cheating on you". I tell him "you're drunk, go fuck yourself and hang up". 2 mins later he calls me again, he was outside this time and told me he was serious. I get up asap, jumped in my car, went to the party, I find the guy, still not believing him, I follow him to the room, open the door and, sure enough some guy was all over her.
Long story short, my world came crushing down, I was constantly drunk for the next couple of months. My grades went to shit, I lost all my money playing casino games and was about to kill myself before I realized she wasn't worth shit. I've fully recovered, but I still want to beat the shit out of her when I see her for wasting a year of my life.
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I think it's easier to deal with people cheating when you appreciate that we are all just animals dressed up like people pretending to be sophisticated and more often than not failing completely. If you tossed a bunch of kids out in the wild and let them grow up to adulthood there's not a chance in hell that they would decided that monogamy was the natural order of things. The girls would latch onto the biggest strongest man that could ensure them a steady supply of food and that would be that. I got into a fight with a girlfriend one time over freedom of choice and closed the argument with this:
Can you choose to breath?
She nodded yes.
Can you choose not to breath to the point of death?
She shook her head no.
So is breathing really a choice?
Our brains rationalize instinctive behaviors and that provides the illusion of choice in our life. We think because we choose what to eat we are making a decision to eat and yet if we starve ourselves long enough the animal will always take over and dig through trash bins if needed to get us the calories we require. Sex is an essential part of any animals survival, at least as much so as food and air because without procreation nothing else really matters and so our ability to influence choice is painfully limited. We will almost always try to latch onto the best possible mate we can find and out only decision is how our brains decide to articulate the thoughts that justify this instinct.
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and those of us that can't have kids should just get on with dying already because breeding is the only thing validating an otherwise meaningless existence
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I think it's easier to deal with people cheating when you appreciate that we are all just animals dressed up like people pretending to be sophisticated and more often than not failing completely. If you tossed a bunch of kids out in the wild and let them grow up to adulthood there's not a chance in hell that they would decided that monogamy was the natural order of things. The girls would latch onto the biggest strongest man that could ensure them a steady supply of food and that would be that. I got into a fight with a girlfriend one time over freedom of choice and closed the argument with this:
Can you choose to breath?
She nodded yes.
Can you choose not to breath to the point of death?
She shook her head no.
So is breathing really a choice?
Our brains rationalize instinctive behaviors and that provides the illusion of choice in our life. We think because we choose what to eat we are making a decision to eat and yet if we starve ourselves long enough the animal will always take over and dig through trash bins if needed to get us the calories we require. Sex is an essential part of any animals survival, at least as much so as food and air because without procreation nothing else really matters and so our ability to influence choice is painfully limited. We will almost always try to latch onto the best possible mate we can find and out only decision is how our brains decide to articulate the thoughts that justify this instinct.
DON'T YA THINK PART OF EVOLUTION FROM THIS ANIMAL INSTINCT IS TO CONTROL IT. THIS ALL SOUNDS LIKE A POOR EXCUSE FROM CHEATERS...
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DON'T YA THINK PART OF EVOLUTION FROM THIS ANIMAL INSTINCT IS TO CONTROL IT. THIS ALL SOUNDS LIKE A POOR EXCUSE FROM CHEATERS...
I imagine it would seem that way to someone who thought they were in control of their actions. Get hungry enough, thirsty enough, horny enough and let me know how that works out for you. Thought is the by product of instinct not the controller of it. We justify our actions with words but without words there would still be action. Leave someone in the desert for a week with no water and then place a glass of ice cold water within reach. Does it really mater what the intellectual justification is when the end result is that the person will always grasp for the glass of water?
People don't want to imagine that relationships are the same way but the reason people cheat is instinctive. We crave the best possible mate for ourselves and will create any string of thought needed to justify our actions. It's the height of arrogance to assume that we have evolved into something better than an animal when the proof is all around us that we fight, bicker, lie, cheat and steal to get the same advantages and benefits our "less evolved" ancestors did.
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I think it's easier to deal with people cheating when you appreciate that we are all just animals dressed up like people pretending to be sophisticated and more often than not failing completely. If you tossed a bunch of kids out in the wild and let them grow up to adulthood there's not a chance in hell that they would decided that monogamy was the natural order of things. The girls would latch onto the biggest strongest man that could ensure them a steady supply of food and that would be that. I got into a fight with a girlfriend one time over freedom of choice and closed the argument with this:
Can you choose to breath?
She nodded yes.
Can you choose not to breath to the point of death?
She shook her head no.
So is breathing really a choice?
Our brains rationalize instinctive behaviors and that provides the illusion of choice in our life. We think because we choose what to eat we are making a decision to eat and yet if we starve ourselves long enough the animal will always take over and dig through trash bins if needed to get us the calories we require. Sex is an essential part of any animals survival, at least as much so as food and air because without procreation nothing else really matters and so our ability to influence choice is painfully limited. We will almost always try to latch onto the best possible mate we can find and out only decision is how our brains decide to articulate the thoughts that justify this instinct.
If you think you can't control your insticts, don't get into a relationship. A relationship is an informal contract. You can fuck 10 people every day and not hurt anyone. Or you can negotiate an open relationship with your partner. It's not the fact that someone else stuck his dick in the same place I stuck mine, it's the fact that she breached her part of the contract while I was trying hard to keep mine. If a vendor asks you to FE on a large amount of € and you don't get shit, you are hurt, because you respected your part of the contract and he took advantage.
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I guess the way I look at it as long as I am the best possible mate for my partner they won't have any reason to cheat on me and if I fail in some way or someone turns up better than me in their mind than I can't really blame the person for trying to get the upgrade. I don't take it any more personally than someone setting down a bunch of bruised bananas in the store in favor of some less bruised ones. The fact is it's nice if someone looks us in the eyes and says "Hey I don't like you any more so I'm going to go fuck someone else now." but regardless of whether they have the conversation the end result is the same.
Marriage is a legal contract and even that isn't broken by having an affair... it's broken by getting a divorce. Dating implies that both people are still shooing around otherwise they would just get married.
I get it, no one want's to be tossed aside for someone else, all I'm saying is that regardless of how sophisticated we think we are people are going to continue to do it all the time because it's in our best interest as a people and a species to get the best possible mate we can and I just don't see how it really matters if someone breaks up with you first or not when the end result is the same.
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Leave someone in the desert for a week with no water and then place a glass of ice cold water within reach. Does it really mater what the intellectual justification is when the end result is that the person will always grasp for the glass of water?
This aint really true. Take hunger strikers for example. We're advanced enough to over ride our instincts if we believe in something strongly enough.
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I think the better mate thing is bullshit. I know lots of cases of attractive girls that they're boyfriends cheated on with uglier girls or girls that were in a relationship with some rich good looking guy and cheated with some broke borderline retard. It's about people thinking they can get away with whatever shit. It's like doing drugs not because you're curious about them, just because you shouldn't but you can.
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Leave someone in the desert for a week with no water and then place a glass of ice cold water within reach. Does it really mater what the intellectual justification is when the end result is that the person will always grasp for the glass of water?
This aint really true. Take hunger strikers for example. We're advanced enough to over ride our instincts if we believe in something strongly enough.
I disagree. The world is overpopulated and yet we still keep making babies. The governments of the world are corrupt and yet we still keep paying them taxes. The foods we eat are filled with toxic poisons that slowly kill us and yet we still eat them. The cars we drive and the products we consume are destroying the planet and yet we still keep using them.
It sounds all good and well to try and place us in some sort of evolved status as a species but in reality we still just do whatever comes most naturally and easily for us. Relationships really aren't all that different. We aren't looking to advance some social cause when we partner with someone we do so to advance our personal cause and as such relationships are intrinsically selfish affairs in which the feelings of others are of much less importance than the feelings of self.
If I put you on an island with one other girl that girl is probably going to become your mate. If I drop fifty much more attractive females on the island dose anyone really doubt what is going to happen? Call it what you want and create any rules you see fit but the reality is you are just creating an intellectual means to justify an instinctual end. The fact that cheating violates a rule you imagine exists doesn't really change the fact that people are still going to do it and there's nothing inherently right or wrong about it. It is simply humans being human across all cultures and time.
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Leave someone in the desert for a week with no water and then place a glass of ice cold water within reach. Does it really mater what the intellectual justification is when the end result is that the person will always grasp for the glass of water?
This aint really true. Take hunger strikers for example. We're advanced enough to over ride our instincts if we believe in something strongly enough.
I disagree. The world is overpopulated and yet we still keep making babies. The governments of the world are corrupt and yet we still keep paying them taxes. The foods we eat are filled with toxic poisons that slowly kill us and yet we still eat them. The cars we drive and the products we consume are destroying the planet and yet we still keep using them.
It sounds all good and well to try and place us in some sort of evolved status as a species but in reality we still just do whatever comes most naturally and easily for us. Relationships really aren't all that different. We aren't looking to advance some social cause when we partner with someone we do so to advance our personal cause and as such relationships are intrinsically selfish affairs in which the feelings of others are of much less importance than the feelings of self.
If I put you on an island with one other girl that girl is probably going to become your mate. If I drop fifty much more attractive females on the island dose anyone really doubt what is going to happen? Call it what you want and create any rules you see fit but the reality is you are just creating an intellectual means to justify an instinctual end. The fact that cheating violates a rule you imagine exists doesn't really change the fact that people are still going to do it and there's nothing inherently right or wrong about it. It is simply humans being human across all cultures and time.
The 'rule' as you call it is one that is more of an emotional agreement between two persons though IMO rather than some obscure social construct. When that's broken it often violates trust that was previously established. Humans are part instinct, part emotional/spiritual.
The island idea's an interesting one. If I'd been with that girl for a long time and built a serious bond (as you might being stranded on an island together!) I reckon I'd be genuinely reluctant to cheat on her without her consent. In that hypothetical situation it'd probably happen eventually but I don't think that's an excuse to say it's fine in real life if yaknow whatamean :)
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This person I know has gotten his girl pregnant.
She is bipolar and scaring him into staying with her and clinging on to her pregnancy to make them meet up and discuss the future.
He doesn't want the baby with her, She knows this yet wants to keep it for some fucked up reason.
She is about 6-7 weeks pregnant.
Is there anything he could give her to induce a miscarriage?
Should he be nice about it and tell her hes not ready right now ?
Or should he be an evil prick and make her hate him into having an abortion?
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This person I know has gotten his girl pregnant.
She is bipolar and scaring him into staying with her and clinging on to her pregnancy to make them meet up and discuss the future.
He doesn't want the baby with her, She knows this yet wants to keep it for some fucked up reason.
She is about 6-7 weeks pregnant.
Is there anything he could give her to induce a miscarriage?
Should he be nice about it and tell her hes not ready right now ?
Or should he be an evil prick and make her hate him into having an abortion?
I think the first one is more of the evil prick option tbh! He could try telling her how he feels then facing up to his responsibilities...
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This person I know has gotten his girl pregnant.
She is bipolar and scaring him into staying with her and clinging on to her pregnancy to make them meet up and discuss the future.
He doesn't want the baby with her, She knows this yet wants to keep it for some fucked up reason.
She is about 6-7 weeks pregnant.
Is there anything he could give her to induce a miscarriage?
Should he be nice about it and tell her hes not ready right now ?
Or should he be an evil prick and make her hate him into having an abortion?
:( there's some crazy selfish bitches out there. my naive brother basically got scammed into getting a girl pregnant years ago "of course i'm on the pill it's fine" she basically said it was up to him then whether he wanted to stay and be a dad or fuck off out the picture. he broke up with her because she was mental and when the baby was born he was going up to see him regularly and contributing financially until the girls brother threatened to beat the shit out of him if he ever came round again. it was his first and still only relationship. he's almost 30 now he has a kid somewhere. luckily his name's not on the birth certificate so he doesn't have to pay child support. but i don't know if he'll ever trust anyone like that again. it's put him right off sex full stop it looks like but we don't talk about these things we're english.
anecdotes aside trying to induce miscarriage without her knowing is definitely the most fucked up option there. talking openly and honestly should be the first step. then appealing to her family and friends about the situation i would give a go. he stuck his dick in her and got her pregnant, what the girl does from then he has little control over unfortunately. try and persuade her to have it aborted yeah but force her? no. unless he has no morals or ability to feel guilt then he could just punch her in the stomach or slip her the abortion pill somehow if it's not too late.
another note why can't men have a birth control option apart from rubbers?! vasectomy is too permanent, i know they can be reversed but it's more complicated and shit. too many guys in relationships get sucked in by taking the girls word that they've got it covered.
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There is no moral difference between men and women, both have the capacity to do all kinds of nasty low down things to each other and of course both can be exceedingly nice to each other which is my preference of course!
The Internet has made cheating so simple it really does give some guys a different women every weekend. I'm a one women man so that does not interest me plus if I was single I'd go to the pub as I'd know someone or people they know.
Online, people lie even more than real life. And many men and women have been suckered inti thinking they have fallen in love with someone they never met. Often its financial gain as seen with young Thai chicks and guys old enough to be their dads who get sexual gain. But that is consensual and legal - but I feel sorry for men who do that. Yes it sounds great having some 20 yr old but an older guy needs company just as much as sex - and communication is often a problem. I love conversing with women. Sex alone would not cut it. Conversing with 20 yr olds is great for a while. Waking up to them, no fucking way, my head would be mangled!
Cheating online is massive, tens of thousands of people in relationships are sending pics of their dicks or video to strangers! A lot ends up on voyeur websites. Sex is better when its the culmination of a relationship. When you have talked to a women a lot and really enjoy their company. Using chat rooms to profess love seems mad to me.
I did cheat just once. A good few years back, I was single but I found out the women I got 'lucky' with was married and had four kids.
Had I been sober I would NEVER have gone near this women but I'd been drinking all day then got an E tablet circa 1990s, every women in the pub was shining and I ended up with a real big girl - I remember I could not move her when trying to move position during out romantic entanglement. She looked like Les Dawson, the UK comedian. I was so stoned, my mates et me up - they convinced me she was a real cracker, I could barely focus and was just enjoying the jukebox and thinking how fantastic the Christmas tree was.
So, the next day, I runs into a buddy who told me I has shagged a married women. She never had a ring on, I know that much - I hate cheaters who risk breaking up a family just for a stolen night of lust. But, as it turns out she was a serial cheater, her husband was resigned to it, which made me mad that he was not mad or would not have been if he knew. Nobody knew apart from my mates who saw me grope her at a house party.
I felt real bad though and promised I would always check up if I ever got lucky. I was lucky this women had a husband who accepted she was basically in need and he could not give! So, although I was wrong I don't feel as bad as I would if it would have been messy - a break up just because of a one night stand.
People in relationships ought to talk more. Sex is important and its your duty when in a relationship to keep your partner satisfied so she or he does not need to stray. I like knowing my women is mine and nobody else goes with her.
I have never cheated when in a relationship.
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The world is overpopulated and yet we still keep making babies. The governments of the world are corrupt and yet we still keep paying them taxes. The foods we eat are filled with toxic poisons that slowly kill us and yet we still eat them. The cars we drive and the products we consume are destroying the planet and yet we still keep using them.
You haven't fingered a specific aspect of human nature. You've rattled off a list of a disparate half dozen. Let's go through them.
The world is overpopulated and yet we still keep making babies. [Tragedy of the Commons]
The governments of the world are corrupt and yet we still keep paying them taxes. [monopoly on the use of force for many; also, level-headed realization of dollars used in scale for social good! Not everyone is anti-taxes, just anti-tax-waste.)
The foods we eat are filled with toxic poisons that slowly kill us and yet we still eat them. [Producers stopped labeling GMO products in the U.S. for awhile. Why? Because when people had that information, *they acted on it*. You point here to a lack of information, and sometimes paralysis in the face of lack of choice.)
The cars we drive and the products we consume are destroying the planet and yet we still keep using them. [People vary here. Fatalism, apathy, self-centeredness and lack-of-option paralysis all play a part. And laziness.]
I hear this argument every time the U.S. refuses to sign any given treaty. "Every country does what's in the interests of its citizens. Why should we do any different?" Of course, (almost) every nation looks first to the interests of its citizens, but many do not do so *exclusively*. I constantly see nations ponying up dues for a greater, common good. The self-justifications of selfishness, as human or governmental nature, are not at all convincing.
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I've been cheated on once, but I'm usually the cheater. I was actually in a 4 year relationship with a girl who I cheated on with maybe near 20 different people. This girl loved me like I was her whole world, and within good reason. When I wasn't out partying it up and hitting some random chick, I was treating her like a queen. It was strange, I used these other girls as practice, and constantly wowed the main lady in the bed. We broke up about 8 months ago, and I still miss her, but for her sake, it's better I avoid her. I'm seeing someone else now, who've I've been with for a month. I haven't cheated on her, and I told myself I wont, but I got a girl who wants her first acid trip to be with me and another who wants her first roll to be with me.
Why is life so hard?
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Have never cheated myself but was cheated on by an ex-girlfriend many times.
She was a sociopath with daddy issues.. Not a good mix.
I kept going back though because she was so danmed hot!
The soundtrack to that relationship would be: Offspring - Self Esteem.
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Yep. Both...
I've learned from my past relationship that men (in my mind) are hard-wired to have a sort of harem or at least multiple partners.
With my current partner (who is a very loving man and has been damaged in the past as well) has stated that when he loves someone, it's only them. He doesn't need anyone else, just me.
....now in my conditioning and distrust of the statement "I won't cheat on you" I've told him at the start of our relationship, that if I can't give him something that he needs, he has my full permission to go get what he needs, so long as I am aware.
Question for all of you? Is this a slippery slope? What am I conveying to him? (in your silkroader's eyes) Is this just a baadd idea introducing another person into our dynamic? Whether it be a 3-some or individual sex partner change up or whatever....?
I guess the whole thing is this:
I love you but i know a man and you're not made that way to stay with me forever so if you feel the urge or are seduced, let me know and that's fine. I give you permission to find a way to fulfill those needs and teach me how i can do that for you....
Thoughts????
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I haven't been cheated on (as far as I know) and never cheated. Not my thing.
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Yep. Both...
I've learned from my past relationship that men (in my mind) are hard-wired to have a sort of harem or at least multiple partners.
With my current partner (who is a very loving man and has been damaged in the past as well) has stated that when he loves someone, it's only them. He doesn't need anyone else, just me.
....now in my conditioning and distrust of the statement "I won't cheat on you" I've told him at the start of our relationship, that if I can't give him something that he needs, he has my full permission to go get what he needs, so long as I am aware.
Question for all of you? Is this a slippery slope? What am I conveying to him? (in your silkroader's eyes) Is this just a baadd idea introducing another person into our dynamic? Whether it be a 3-some or individual sex partner change up or whatever....?
I guess the whole thing is this:
I love you but i know a man and you're not made that way to stay with me forever so if you feel the urge or are seduced, let me know and that's fine. I give you permission to find a way to fulfill those needs and teach me how i can do that for you....
Thoughts????
i was in something of a similar situation with my ex when she wanted sex and i was like ok just tell me when and we'll hop to it but she wanted me to initiate it every time which would happen quite rarely because i was/am quite deeply depressed and just don't have that much interest in sex most of the time. she never really knew the extent of my depression, that i constantly fixate on suicide, traumatic memories, negative aspects of my life, just shit.. but yeah i've always found that to be the case, the other person wants it way more than i do. when we did long distance for a year and she complained about being frustrated i suggested to her that she could have sex with anyone she wanted just don't tell me about it and it turns out that's not the right thing to say to a girl who's in love with you lol. so i think i get where you're coming from in wanting the person you love to be satisfied, it's the other person and how they feel personally that is important. if he says his needs can only be fulfilled by you then that's a good sign of his character imo, it's awesome to have someone who cares that much about you. as to whether introducing a third person would be good or bad, it works for some people which is fair enough but (i assume you are a girl... i am too btw) anecdotal evidence suggests it's easier for men to have multiple partners than it is for their partner to deal with their infidelity. no comments on polyamourous relationships except beware of the evil love triangle! and i'm not talking about vaginas. god i am hilarious ::) can you just fake it and get him there fast? it's a lot easier to fake it with men or as we are on sr there's some drugs that would make you feel more up for it. i bet you were expecting something more useful after that ridiculous essay. sorry. you sound kinda like me in that i think about other peoples needs above my own so i guess don't make the same mistake i did and bottle everything up and pretend you're fine or they'll think they are the problem and you could lose them. he sounds like a good guy so just keep communicating and hopefully he will be understanding about whatever your situation.
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I have many thoughts on this but the most important thing I need to ask is will you marry me? :)
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I have many thoughts on this but the most important thing I need to ask is will you marry me? :)
lol is that directed to one of us or are you just in a good place?
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Haha.... My post was for saintgabriels. That post made her sound like the perfect woman.
I forgot to check if any posts had landed while I wrote it. woops
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Haha.... My post was for saintgabriels. That post made her sound like the perfect woman.
I forgot to check if any posts had landed while I wrote it. woops
i thought so but just checking! you would have had to be high as fuck to say that to me :D well i've had weirder proposals but not after confessing to being a suicidal lesbian hahaha
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Haha.... My post was for saintgabriels. That post made her sound like the perfect woman.
I forgot to check if any posts had landed while I wrote it. woops
i thought so but just checking! you would have had to be high as fuck to say that to me :D well i've had weirder proposals but not after confessing to being a suicidal lesbian hahaha
Damn straight you better not be proposing to MY hero member 4 life. MINE. I will marry her. When I'm ready.... and lesbian.
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I have many thoughts on this but the most important thing I need to ask is will you marry me? :)
Sure! I need a marriage for the tax write-offs.
I honestly just want my man to be satisfied. And if that means that he needs another woman, than that's that.
&& @ Ron oh definitely! I think he is genuinely a great guy, and keeps me happy. The only problem I can see is he knows I like girls too (couldn't date 'em so props to you) so I can tell he gets a bit concerned when he gets it in his head that I'm not satisfied without another chick to 'play' with. Of course, I reassure him that's not the case, but I'm worried it gets to him sometimes.
Anyway...
funny story.
He told me when he was at work the other day there were a bunch of hot chicks that I should've seen. When I asked him if there were any his type or that he thought were cute (to which he's always been honest), he thought about it for a moment and said "you know what, I don't know, I was scoping them out for you, seeing which one you'd like best" What a man!!
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I once stole a $100 from the free parking in Monopoly one time. Shameful, I know.
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Haha.... My post was for saintgabriels. That post made her sound like the perfect woman.
I forgot to check if any posts had landed while I wrote it. woops
i thought so but just checking! you would have had to be high as fuck to say that to me :D well i've had weirder proposals but not after confessing to being a suicidal lesbian hahaha
Damn straight you better not be proposing to MY hero member 4 life. MINE. I will marry her. When I'm ready.... and lesbian.
We're drivin' down the road, I wonder if you know
I'm tryin' so hard not to get caught up now
But you're just so cool, run your hands through your hair
Absent-mindedly makin' me want you ;)
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I have many thoughts on this but the most important thing I need to ask is will you marry me? :)
Sure! I need a marriage for the tax write-offs.
I honestly just want my man to be satisfied. And if that means that he needs another woman, than that's that.
&& @ Ron oh definitely! I think he is genuinely a great guy, and keeps me happy. The only problem I can see is he knows I like girls too (couldn't date 'em so props to you) so I can tell he gets a bit concerned when he gets it in his head that I'm not satisfied without another chick to 'play' with. Of course, I reassure him that's not the case, but I'm worried it gets to him sometimes.
Anyway...
funny story.
He told me when he was at work the other day there were a bunch of hot chicks that I should've seen. When I asked him if there were any his type or that he thought were cute (to which he's always been honest), he thought about it for a moment and said "you know what, I don't know, I was scoping them out for you, seeing which one you'd like best" What a man!!
haha i'm the other way round. i could do a casual with a guy but only get serious with another galll. men are just are too boring most of the time i get pissed off just holding conversations with them lol.
yeah it's a jar how partners can be weirdly irrational about that. my ex used to get pretty jealous. she asked me on numerous occasions if i got with other people while we were out together. i never did. i just stopped going out because i got sick of it. got stupid pissed off at me for having sex with a guy before we were even together and wouldn't talk to me for weeks.
that's pretty jokes about him scoping out girls for you! oi go get your arse in the girl thread(/spice girls fan club) we need new recruits who aren't filthy slaaaags http://dkn255hz262ypmii.onion/index.php?topic=120397 say a big moustache sent you there :D
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I disagree. The world is overpopulated and yet we still keep making babies. The governments of the world are corrupt and yet we still keep paying them taxes. The foods we eat are filled with toxic poisons that slowly kill us and yet we still eat them. The cars we drive and the products we consume are destroying the planet and yet we still keep using them.
It sounds all good and well to try and place us in some sort of evolved status as a species but in reality we still just do whatever comes most naturally and easily for us. Relationships really aren't all that different. We aren't looking to advance some social cause when we partner with someone we do so to advance our personal cause and as such relationships are intrinsically selfish affairs in which the feelings of others are of much less importance than the feelings of self.
If I put you on an island with one other girl that girl is probably going to become your mate. If I drop fifty much more attractive females on the island dose anyone really doubt what is going to happen? Call it what you want and create any rules you see fit but the reality is you are just creating an intellectual means to justify an instinctual end. The fact that cheating violates a rule you imagine exists doesn't really change the fact that people are still going to do it and there's nothing inherently right or wrong about it. It is simply humans being human across all cultures and time.
Oh D, where art thou? :'(
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I have many thoughts on this but the most important thing I need to ask is will you marry me? :)
Sure! I need a marriage for the tax write-offs.
I honestly just want my man to be satisfied. And if that means that he needs another woman, than that's that.
&& @ Ron oh definitely! I think he is genuinely a great guy, and keeps me happy. The only problem I can see is he knows I like girls too (couldn't date 'em so props to you) so I can tell he gets a bit concerned when he gets it in his head that I'm not satisfied without another chick to 'play' with. Of course, I reassure him that's not the case, but I'm worried it gets to him sometimes.
Anyway...
funny story.
He told me when he was at work the other day there were a bunch of hot chicks that I should've seen. When I asked him if there were any his type or that he thought were cute (to which he's always been honest), he thought about it for a moment and said "you know what, I don't know, I was scoping them out for you, seeing which one you'd like best" What a man!!
Just reading this post and I want to respond in some way but I can't. I just can't. [edit.] ::) What I CAN say is... Such a refreshing viewpoint.
Piece, Love, and Fuck Haters.
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Oh D, where art thou? :'(
Don't know. Haven't seen his posts for a while. Cheer up TrashBox. Hugs.
xxx
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Back on the topic... Iv never been in a closed relationship. All my girlfriends are cool with eachother and all except for one is bisexual so that's fun.
It's kind of a double standard to be honest because all of my girls are in "love" with me so they won't be with other guys.
Spread the love everyone.
Chaos
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When I met my wife, well the chick that I would eventually marry, she wasnt my wife then, I had slept with 11 females, she made 12.
When we got engaged, the number had risen to 16.
After appx. 18 months of engagement, on our wedding day, I had slept with a total of 23.
After nearly three years of marriage, I am at 31.
We're getting a divorce. But she has no clue.
u ever gor a cheeseburger from McDonalds and you opened it and it had no cheese? I feel like you have don that to us with your story. u left out a crucial part. why laddy?
What happened to this guy ^^
And what happened to MY FACE?!