It's really this simple: accept yourself. Yeah, that's all. Do that and your problem is solved."Is it okay to slow down?" I have only this statement in response: who gives a flying fuck if it's okay? Do you want to? If so, you're wasting your life -- literally wasting time that you can never get back again -- following some social convention that you aren't even sure is real. If you want to feel things... feel them. Explore them. Indulge. I don't care if what you really want is to *be* a fucking woman: do it.Remember, many people are afraid to ask for what they want. That's why they don't get what they want.It's okay to be anything you want to be. I guarantee you that you can find people who will accept you no matter what you choose to be -- there may not be many of them, but they're out there somewhere no matter how "unacceptable," you may end up choosing to be.