Quote from: DiamondSky on February 16, 2013, 07:21 amQuote from: TK1991 on February 16, 2013, 06:31 amIn the long run it always hurts a lot more cheating then being cheated on.After you cheat you have to live with yourself forever after :( So my dad was a painter and he could find beauty in any woman and bring it out on canvas. I can't paint but I can love and when I see that beauty in someone it's hard not to love them. I don't know that it hurts me or them or anyone really. Most people, if you took a random sample of the population, have a deficiency of love. I'm just there to help balance the scales. Monogamy actually seems rather selfish to me. I'm only with my wife a few hours a day, why let the rest of the day go to waste by not loving whoever I can? Doesn't mean I love my wife less, if anything it helps me appreciate her more.The only thing guilt inspiring is if you decide to lie about it which is just silly. Maybe it's just a portion of the population is born with the monogamy gene and a smaller portion without it. For those of us that lack it, trying to be with one person is a comfortable as trying to be with the opposite sex when you are gay. So now that I'm out of my closet as it were, I just don't fight it. I can comfortably love several people at once and I'm okay with that.Logically I agree with you in absolutely every way; despite that, it still hurts when someone chooses to be with someone else instead of me. Don't get me wrong, a bit of jealousy isn't necessarily a bad thing, but all the logic in the world doesn't do a damn bit of good convincing my heart to feel differently.