If it does not matter you would state it. Matter is a strange word. As by definition...you are correct..it would not matter. But by not declaring if you are indeed a female...that means you are a female...as any man would deny it in a second! There is absolutely no security reason to not say if you are a man or a woman.. BUT you do not for any reason ti HAVE to tell us either. And this is the first time I have seen you deny the question..meaning you actually saying you will not say. I do not think respect is the right word..but I understand your right to not answer it. But as you even know..if I were to ask someone a question..like " do you enjoy fisting" and they say... "I would rather not answer"...that means they LOVE it. If they did not love it...and in fact they were not into it...they would never ever answer..."I would rather not answer" as they would never,even for 1 second..want someone to think they could love fisting. I think you deserve respect and I would never ask you if you are into that...or if you are hot...or if you are into men. Good for you becoming a mod as a woman.. YOU should celebrate it! It is a powerful position to make it TOO In the SR revolution. The bromance I was sensing with HeatFan..is actually a Romance!! And you could be first couple of SR. As Lim and Cristy are just into really kinky shit and it's purely sexual. Where as you too it seems have built a liking based on the mind!! I think if you did come out that you would feel better. And maybe it would take the edge off around here. You being a woman makes so much sense...I mean it clears everything up...CRYSTAL CLEAR!! In fact there is no way you cannot be a woman. IMPOSSIBLE! And cementing it is saying..."I have never stated on the forums which gender I am, nor will I. It does not matter for the purpose of moderating whether I am male or female" When thinking of you in terms of being a woman..it makes so much sense on the things you have done/not done..as before ...it was so frustrating reading you answers... but now....I have a smile because I understand. You should really come out. You do not need to hide. SR community will support a woman Mod. So please...come out of the shadows and stop lying about your sexuality. It is 2013 and we are ready for some cutting edge shit. And then you can mentor Heatfan and instead of just 18 hours a day on here..the super user combo of you two..in a dual role as co-mods...could handle this place 24/7. And I think you need a nick name...the Lakers have "Showtime" .. Floyd Mayweather has "Money"... the Clippers have Lob City...you guys could be "Lock city" and your motto could be.."There is only one Key...and we share it!"