I believe I can very quickly, logically and concisely reduce to absurdity your argument that fantasy and reality have an intrinsic link. I don't even need to show you the statistics on coercive pornography consumption and its relationship to coercive sexual activity , although I could do that as well. A. A large percentage of females fantasize about being raped, a decent percentage of them frequently fantasize about this https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19085605 B. Contrary to your claim, many females are not fantasizing about consensual rough sex, in fact they are fantasizing about being forced against their will to engage in sexual acts http://www.questia.com/library/1G1-196534089/the-nature-of-women-s-rape-fantasies-an-analysis extrapolating from these two studies, it seems fair to estimate that approximately 48% of females fantasize about being 'coerced and violently raped'. C. As it is inherently contradictory to wish for something to actually happen to yourself that you do not wish to happen, it is impossible. As I have established that almost half of females fantasize about being violently forced to engage in sex against their will, it therefor follows that a persons fantasies are not intrinsically linked to a persons desires in reality. In other words, no matter how frequently a female fantasizes about being forced to engage in sex against her will, it is impossible for this fantasy to cause her to have a desire to be forced to engage in sex against her will, as such a desire is contradictory to the very goal of being forced without consent. It is therefor impossible for a female to condition herself with rape fantasy in such a way that the fantasy bleeds over to her desires in reality. I believe that although the case can not be made as strongly for males who fantasize about raping (ie: I can not show that it is literally impossible for there to be a link between fantasy and actions in reality), that the general theme of fantasy and reality being different things will hold.