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Title: Girls.........
Post by: LordBiron on September 23, 2013, 04:09 pm
Hey guys I wanted to start this thread up because well I want to see how we men (and ladies) spit "game". Also, not going to lie and I am sure I am not the only one who wants to improve his "game"

 

 

So before we go on I might as well explain my situation also, maybe I can get some advice as well. Ok I am 22 and I was with my now ex-wife since I was literally 5 and we got divorced (by that I mean I was deployed in the military and she had affairs) when I was 20 and it took me no joke two years to get over her. I could not look at another woman in a sexual way not even adult material. So around June I said to myself enough is enough I am done crying I want to go out and meet other girls. So my friends and I have been going out a few times a month. So far since June I've gotten 2 hummers and I've made out with a few girls on the dance floor, not going to lie they were all 5's and below. I working on my self confidence and I consider myself and have been told by hot girls that I am very cute. So before I get into my approach let me explain part of me. I am from Liverpool, UK so I am a Scouser and I have a thick accent, I live in America so it appears to be an advantage. Ok so here is my approach, First I go to the club with my mates and we will get drinks and what not to get loose and then my one mate wall hugs and me and my other mate normally hit the dance floor and try to talk to girls (maybe mistake number 1 I am out looking for a girl?). I'll normally dance around a group normally 3-4 and then inch closer and closer and try to start normal conversation once I meet a girl I introduce myself, I'll kiss the top of her hand. Normally I get this "OMG where are you from" that to me is sign that she is interest, and they normally grab my hand or  right arm which is fully sleeved so another conversation starter there. Then i grab them by the hip and pull em in and we dance, but lately like the last 3 times out I've been getting shot down like I'll dance with a girl or two but nothing really escalates.

I'm going to be honest I've only been with one girl my whole life and I have no idea how to talk to them


So thats my approach I figured, I'd be completely honest and ask for all criticisms and advice     
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: Yoda on September 23, 2013, 04:31 pm
You might want to edit out all that personal info from the post...

Now LE knows that you were born in _ , served in the _ , divorced at _ , now live in _ .    They can put those attributes in their supercomputer or whatnot and probably turn out some pretty narrow results.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: LordBiron on September 23, 2013, 04:35 pm
You might want to edit out all that personal info from the post...

Now LE knows that you were born in _ , served in the _ , divorced at _ , now live in _ .    They can put those attributes in their supercomputer or whatnot and probably turn out some pretty narrow results.

If the gov't were to investigate me they would be VERY sad haha they wouldn't find shit
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: Quen on September 23, 2013, 05:47 pm
Fuck it you have to go out there all cavalier like charge out there and not give a fuck. Get a few drinks and some sniff in ya and go for it. Talk whatever bollocks you feel like to them the more crazy the shit the better. All else fails call up a hooker for a shag every now and then. I had one at the weekend I fucking made her sweat haha.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: incubusdriver on September 23, 2013, 06:21 pm
Perhaps we could turn this into a dating thread.

Don't overthink things. Don't plan to pull. Don't plan to leave alone either.

If you're desperate, opt for roofies. Not being serious there of course.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: weok83r8fd on September 23, 2013, 06:22 pm
A big secret about meeting women is they find cum irresistible. When you are going out to the club make sure you put cum all over your face and hands and stuff and when you get near them it will drive them wild.  Also keep some extra in a condom stuffed in your pocket in case you need reserves for her.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: incubusdriver on September 23, 2013, 06:28 pm
A big secret about meeting women is they find cum irresistible. When you are going out to the club make sure you put cum all over your face and hands and stuff and when you get near them it will drive them wild.  Also keep some extra in a condom stuffed in your pocket in case you need reserves for her.

+1!
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: pinto43 on September 23, 2013, 06:44 pm
A big secret about meeting women is they find cum irresistible. When you are going out to the club make sure you put cum all over your face and hands and stuff and when you get near them it will drive them wild.  Also keep some extra in a condom stuffed in your pocket in case you need reserves for her.
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Thats hillarious! good one mate
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: Gridlokk on September 23, 2013, 07:08 pm
Well this woman obviously doesn't like cum...

--Clearnet Warning--
http://gawker.com/man-threw-his-semen-at-wal-mart-customer-he-thought-was-748714419
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: mary666 on September 23, 2013, 08:07 pm
Well this woman obviously doesn't like cum...

--Clearnet Warning--
http://gawker.com/man-threw-his-semen-at-wal-mart-customer-he-thought-was-748714419
Brilliant story, +1 and a quote from someone on the story page...lol  ;)
"Quote"
That disgusting piece of shit.

If that fat faced clown brow ever did that to me or anyone around me, I'd jam my heel into his throat and watch him choke. And then resuscitate him just to do it again.

I'm a pacifist, normally. But this - oh fuck no. 7/12/13 12:32am
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: cyanate on September 23, 2013, 08:29 pm
Wow you just sound like an older version of me
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: LordBiron on September 23, 2013, 08:34 pm
Cheers now all jokes aside can we have a serious conversation
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: incubusdriver on September 23, 2013, 09:07 pm
But m'Lord, this IS a serious conversation wrapped up in a comical little bow!

If you'll allow me to talk you through an example:

Perhaps we could turn this into a dating thread.

Don't overthink things. Don't plan to pull. Don't plan to leave alone either.

If you're desperate, opt for roofies. Not being serious there of course.

This method of delivery is my own take on 'The Compliment Sandwich', and is what I like to call 'The Joke Sandwich'.

So, my first line: Perhaps we could turn this into a dating thread.
This was my first joke. If you like, you could call this the top slice of bread.

My next line: Don't overthink things. Don't plan to pull. Don't plan to leave alone either.
This was the meat. The jam. The peanut butter and jelly - the stuff you actually wanted. Or at least my serious opinion on the discussion topic. Perhaps not the stuff you wanted.

And my final line: If you're desperate, opt for roofies.
This was of course the last piece of bread. I even qualified it as a joke (read 'qualified it as a slice of bread'), by adding "Not being serious there of course."

I did try to be clear, but I can see that you don't enjoy sandwiches. On a lighter note though dude, did you read that story about the creepy guy who flicked a gob of semen at the random woman in the shopping place?
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: LordBiron on September 23, 2013, 09:13 pm
But m'Lord, this IS a serious conversation wrapped up in a comical little bow!

If you'll allow me to talk you through an example:

Perhaps we could turn this into a dating thread.

Don't overthink things. Don't plan to pull. Don't plan to leave alone either.

If you're desperate, opt for roofies. Not being serious there of course.

This method of delivery is my own take on 'The Compliment Sandwich', and is what I like to call 'The Joke Sandwich'.

So, my first line: Perhaps we could turn this into a dating thread.
This was my first joke. If you like, you could call this the top slice of bread.

My next line: Don't overthink things. Don't plan to pull. Don't plan to leave alone either.
This was the meat. The jam. The peanut butter and jelly - the stuff you actually wanted. Or at least my serious opinion on the discussion topic. Perhaps not the stuff you wanted.

And my final line: If you're desperate, opt for roofies.
This was of course the last piece of bread. I even qualified it as a joke (read 'qualified it as a slice of bread'), by adding "Not being serious there of course."

I did try to be clear, but I can see that you don't enjoy sandwiches. On a lighter note though dude, did you read that story about the creepy guy who flicked a gob of semen at the random woman in the shopping place?

Lmao you sir gave me a genuine laugh and yes I did
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: mary666 on September 23, 2013, 09:14 pm
A sense of humor's always good start  ;) Honestly, just be yourself, don't be overly keen, we do like to chase too  ;)
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: incubusdriver on September 23, 2013, 09:26 pm
A sense of humor's always good start  ;) Honestly, just be yourself, don't be overly keen, we do like to chase too  ;)

Bonafide advice from a certified Fembotâ„¢ ;-)

And I'm glad you took my post with a pinch of salt, it shows you're not socially inept. Good luck my friend!
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: suffix on September 23, 2013, 09:40 pm
learn to love yourself and your own company 1st, then when you are ready get to know as many women as you can, women are great, funny smart and good company, get some female friends, be confident ( acting confident can be the same as being confident. ) find a girl you like and ask her out, if she says no make her laugh then ask her out again. remember to wash your balls.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: jnemonic on September 23, 2013, 10:15 pm
Hey guys I wanted to start this thread up because well I want to see how we men (and ladies) spit "game". Also, not going to lie and I am sure I am not the only one who wants to improve his "game"

 

 

So before we go on I might as well explain my situation also, maybe I can get some advice as well. Ok I am 22 and I was with my now ex-wife since I was literally 5 and we got divorced (by that I mean I was deployed in the military and she had affairs) when I was 20 and it took me no joke two years to get over her. I could not look at another woman in a sexual way not even adult material. So around June I said to myself enough is enough I am done crying I want to go out and meet other girls. So my friends and I have been going out a few times a month. So far since June I've gotten 2 hummers and I've made out with a few girls on the dance floor, not going to lie they were all 5's and below. I working on my self confidence and I consider myself and have been told by hot girls that I am very cute. So before I get into my approach let me explain part of me. I am from Liverpool, UK so I am a Scouser and I have a thick accent, I live in America so it appears to be an advantage. Ok so here is my approach, First I go to the club with my mates and we will get drinks and what not to get loose and then my one mate wall hugs and me and my other mate normally hit the dance floor and try to talk to girls (maybe mistake number 1 I am out looking for a girl?). I'll normally dance around a group normally 3-4 and then inch closer and closer and try to start normal conversation once I meet a girl I introduce myself, I'll kiss the top of her hand. Normally I get this "OMG where are you from" that to me is sign that she is interest, and they normally grab my hand or  right arm which is fully sleeved so another conversation starter there. Then i grab them by the hip and pull em in and we dance, but lately like the last 3 times out I've been getting shot down like I'll dance with a girl or two but nothing really escalates.

I'm going to be honest I've only been with one girl my whole life and I have no idea how to talk to them


So thats my approach I figured, I'd be completely honest and ask for all criticisms and advice     

You were pussy whipped early, pure and simple. Married at 22? Ok, i'm going to sound mean here, but in my eyes, too many people are getting married and having children before they even know who they are themselves....

Having a family,being married and joining the military is one of the most disrespectful things you can do to a family.

Are you a family man, or a fighter? Sorry you can't have both. I've had a few whipped friends from years ago, married early 20's, divorced now.

If you really loved her, you would not have deployed, simple.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: HitTheRoad on September 23, 2013, 11:31 pm
Sounds like you're full of confidence and the method you were using was working for a while but the last three haven't so maybe give that same method another few goes and if none of the next five attempts work then you must have changed something that has made it not work? If you haven't changed anything then you'll have to come up with another approach if none of the next five work I'd say!



Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: cryngie on September 24, 2013, 12:00 am
Ok I know this is going to sound out there but seeing as you have access to a computer, seem to be able to construct sentences maybe try a online dating site, atleast you can talk to women before meeting them and there seems to be alot of women these days who prefer to meet online first as when they are out with their friends they  dont wont to be hit on but thats just my .02c
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: HitTheRoad on September 24, 2013, 12:11 am
Ok I know this is going to sound out there but seeing as you have access to a computer, seem to be able to construct sentences maybe try a online dating site, atleast you can talk to women before meeting them and there seems to be alot of women these days who prefer to meet online first as when they are out with their friends they  dont wont to be hit on but thats just my .02c

Are you female and out of interest if you are, do women, and men too, usually go out with the want or hope deep down to meet someone even if they give off the impression they are not out for that do you think?

The online way does seem to have a kind of safety net appeal to it where you can check the person out first without alcohol or anything else on board like the pub club situation before meeting them
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: LordBiron on September 24, 2013, 01:03 am
Hey guys I wanted to start this thread up because well I want to see how we men (and ladies) spit "game". Also, not going to lie and I am sure I am not the only one who wants to improve his "game"

 

 

So before we go on I might as well explain my situation also, maybe I can get some advice as well. Ok I am 22 and I was with my now ex-wife since I was literally 5 and we got divorced (by that I mean I was deployed in the military and she had affairs) when I was 20 and it took me no joke two years to get over her. I could not look at another woman in a sexual way not even adult material. So around June I said to myself enough is enough I am done crying I want to go out and meet other girls. So my friends and I have been going out a few times a month. So far since June I've gotten 2 hummers and I've made out with a few girls on the dance floor, not going to lie they were all 5's and below. I working on my self confidence and I consider myself and have been told by hot girls that I am very cute. So before I get into my approach let me explain part of me. I am from Liverpool, UK so I am a Scouser and I have a thick accent, I live in America so it appears to be an advantage. Ok so here is my approach, First I go to the club with my mates and we will get drinks and what not to get loose and then my one mate wall hugs and me and my other mate normally hit the dance floor and try to talk to girls (maybe mistake number 1 I am out looking for a girl?). I'll normally dance around a group normally 3-4 and then inch closer and closer and try to start normal conversation once I meet a girl I introduce myself, I'll kiss the top of her hand. Normally I get this "OMG where are you from" that to me is sign that she is interest, and they normally grab my hand or  right arm which is fully sleeved so another conversation starter there. Then i grab them by the hip and pull em in and we dance, but lately like the last 3 times out I've been getting shot down like I'll dance with a girl or two but nothing really escalates.

I'm going to be honest I've only been with one girl my whole life and I have no idea how to talk to them


So thats my approach I figured, I'd be completely honest and ask for all criticisms and advice     

You were pussy whipped early, pure and simple. Married at 22? Ok, i'm going to sound mean here, but in my eyes, too many people are getting married and having children before they even know who they are themselves....

Having a family,being married and joining the military is one of the most disrespectful things you can do to a family.

Are you a family man, or a fighter? Sorry you can't have both. I've had a few whipped friends from years ago, married early 20's, divorced now.

If you really loved her, you would not have deployed, simple.

I agree about the whipped comment, Go fuck yourself about deploying I do what I have to do. If I didn't go with my delpoyment I would have gone to jail
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: DefyCode on September 24, 2013, 02:56 am
Mary666 and I are certified SR Fembots as incubusdriver clearly pointed out lol.

Honestly? Unless you are really attractive I really don't pay much attention to guys I don't know at clubs. I generally stick to my friends. Try meeting girls in non alcoholic settings. For example, if I guy I physically consider to be a 7-ish approaches me in a club he would probably get rejected if he somehow manages to get through my friends; we act as guardians to each other. On the other hand, if the same guy were to approach me while I was at a museum, or park, or even in the mall, his odds of ACTUALLY meeting me and exchanging numbers would go up significantly. A thing that a friend has done and quite well is a thing called Events and Adventures, it is an event organization where they have outings available almost every day of every month and everyone that goes is single. This would also be a good opportunity for you to meet girls.

Bottom line. Don't put us on a pedestal and find us during the day, then take us out at night. ;)

-xoxo
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: jnemonic on September 24, 2013, 03:46 am
Hey guys I wanted to start this thread up because well I want to see how we men (and ladies) spit "game". Also, not going to lie and I am sure I am not the only one who wants to improve his "game"

 

 

So before we go on I might as well explain my situation also, maybe I can get some advice as well. Ok I am 22 and I was with my now ex-wife since I was literally 5 and we got divorced (by that I mean I was deployed in the military and she had affairs) when I was 20 and it took me no joke two years to get over her. I could not look at another woman in a sexual way not even adult material. So around June I said to myself enough is enough I am done crying I want to go out and meet other girls. So my friends and I have been going out a few times a month. So far since June I've gotten 2 hummers and I've made out with a few girls on the dance floor, not going to lie they were all 5's and below. I working on my self confidence and I consider myself and have been told by hot girls that I am very cute. So before I get into my approach let me explain part of me. I am from Liverpool, UK so I am a Scouser and I have a thick accent, I live in America so it appears to be an advantage. Ok so here is my approach, First I go to the club with my mates and we will get drinks and what not to get loose and then my one mate wall hugs and me and my other mate normally hit the dance floor and try to talk to girls (maybe mistake number 1 I am out looking for a girl?). I'll normally dance around a group normally 3-4 and then inch closer and closer and try to start normal conversation once I meet a girl I introduce myself, I'll kiss the top of her hand. Normally I get this "OMG where are you from" that to me is sign that she is interest, and they normally grab my hand or  right arm which is fully sleeved so another conversation starter there. Then i grab them by the hip and pull em in and we dance, but lately like the last 3 times out I've been getting shot down like I'll dance with a girl or two but nothing really escalates.

I'm going to be honest I've only been with one girl my whole life and I have no idea how to talk to them


So thats my approach I figured, I'd be completely honest and ask for all criticisms and advice     

You were pussy whipped early, pure and simple. Married at 22? Ok, i'm going to sound mean here, but in my eyes, too many people are getting married and having children before they even know who they are themselves....

Having a family,being married and joining the military is one of the most disrespectful things you can do to a family.

Are you a family man, or a fighter? Sorry you can't have both. I've had a few whipped friends from years ago, married early 20's, divorced now.

If you really loved her, you would not have deployed, simple.

I agree about the whipped comment, Go fuck yourself about deploying I do what I have to do. If I didn't go with my delpoyment I would have gone to jail

Deploy away boy....grab that gat..and RAT A TAT TAT!!

Now you mention jail, now that's a little different...but again, you had the girl but still couldn't keep your nose clean?

 If you want to wax lyrical here, how about you be more specific?

Sorry pussy whipped bitches fucking grind me up, seen it all the time, even my own father so yeah, harden the fuck up....soldier boy.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: Dazarius on September 24, 2013, 08:30 am
learn to love yourself and your own company 1st, then when you are ready get to know as many women as you can, women are great, funny smart and good company, get some female friends, be confident ( acting confident can be the same as being confident. ) find a girl you like and ask her out, if she says no make her laugh then ask her out again. remember to wash your balls.

This one!
Club usually isn't the place to pick up a girl. Find some new hobbies do some sports or something go out and enjoy life and feel alive otherwise you only repress your feelings and would do harm for the girl too who'd you pick up from club. Learn your owns company and figure out how you wanna live your life then we can look forward.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: turdburglarSandwich on September 24, 2013, 09:59 am
Props to ya for sacking up, willing to go to foreign lands, meet foreign peeps, and kill them...(jk) I have mad respect for those that serve, just wasn't up my alley. I understand your dilemma. Truly I do. I was married for 11yrs to my first wife, and that bitch sucked my soul and wallet dry, plus a coupla so called "friends". (Fuck that dirty rotten whore with maggots in her snatch, may they all have their jangly bits rotted off)

Women are  confusing, confounding, beautiful, amazing, stunning, and speak in tongues. That being said, I can't conceive of any future I have that doesn't include my present wife.

Just like any other human, women make first impressions. If you're hunting from the club, make sure you look good, smell good, and don't be a posturing douche. Women that are worthy and single in a club, willing to make with the intimacy are few and far between.

 A club setting is a good place to start improving your game. Get invited to an after party. That will be a more relaxed atmosphere, more face time, fewer distractions. Then you can let your sparkling personality show, propped up by your good looks.

Don't be afraid to open your wallet, women don't like broke ass mofo's either. Don't talk about the other women you have been with, or are pining after, that is a sure turn off. Ask them about themselves, what they do, be a little silly, but not a drunken sot.

Do you have any special talents, like massage? Women who are ok being touched by a stranger may welcome a gently applied shoulder massage. That is an in. Healthy safe touch is missing from many women's' lives. Don't massage with all your strength, listen to her, pay attention to her body language, and you will get waaay farther than you expect.

Touch is our first contact outside the womb, and lets be honest here, how many of us get enough touch that isn't creepy or sexual? Don't look at them with hungry eyes, unless you KNOW they desire you as well. Look at them with compassion and acceptance in your eyes, and that too will get you in.

If any of this helps a fellow human in need of some intimacy, emotional, physical, or spiritual, then I have succeeded. Good luck.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: LordBiron on September 24, 2013, 02:54 pm
Props to ya for sacking up, willing to go to foreign lands, meet foreign peeps, and kill them...(jk) I have mad respect for those that serve, just wasn't up my alley. I understand your dilemma. Truly I do. I was married for 11yrs to my first wife, and that bitch sucked my soul and wallet dry, plus a coupla so called "friends". (Fuck that dirty rotten whore with maggots in her snatch, may they all have their jangly bits rotted off)

Women are  confusing, confounding, beautiful, amazing, stunning, and speak in tongues. That being said, I can't conceive of any future I have that doesn't include my present wife.

Just like any other human, women make first impressions. If you're hunting from the club, make sure you look good, smell good, and don't be a posturing douche. Women that are worthy and single in a club, willing to make with the intimacy are few and far between.

 A club setting is a good place to start improving your game. Get invited to an after party. That will be a more relaxed atmosphere, more face time, fewer distractions. Then you can let your sparkling personality show, propped up by your good looks.

Don't be afraid to open your wallet, women don't like broke ass mofo's either. Don't talk about the other women you have been with, or are pining after, that is a sure turn off. Ask them about themselves, what they do, be a little silly, but not a drunken sot.

Do you have any special talents, like massage? Women who are ok being touched by a stranger may welcome a gently applied shoulder massage. That is an in. Healthy safe touch is missing from many women's' lives. Don't massage with all your strength, listen to her, pay attention to her body language, and you will get waaay farther than you expect.

Touch is our first contact outside the womb, and lets be honest here, how many of us get enough touch that isn't creepy or sexual? Don't look at them with hungry eyes, unless you KNOW they desire you as well. Look at them with compassion and acceptance in your eyes, and that too will get you in.

If any of this helps a fellow human in need of some intimacy, emotional, physical, or spiritual, then I have succeeded. Good luck.

Thank you and thank you to all who are contributing I am learning alot, I do love myself I just want to be more confident with woman thats all
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: GGGreenbud on September 24, 2013, 03:00 pm
   Ok, I'm not a Cassanova or Don Jon or whatever, but I've had my share, at one point I was drowning in pussy so I had to wear a raincoat all of the time.  Your first mistake is going to the bar.  You need to be somewhere that you can be seen, preferably with a woman, find a girl who will friendzone you, then go out and do stuff, this will boost your confidence, plus she might let you watch her get naked and stuff, which is fun.
     So you go to the grocerystore(produce section) on a weeknight and ask a woman if she knows where they keep the spotted dick.  No seriously though, ask her where the Ralston's is, that pepper onion relish crap you eat over there, I love it.   Then chat her up.  If she trust you enough to include you in her plans something with you, you can't be that far off.  Next, try going to a park, find women in pairs, chat them up, find out which one likes you more, then flirt with her friend.  She will get jealous, and they will have a who-can-fuck-the-englishman contest, Yank chicks love that game, remember, you're exotic, but in a bring home to mom n dad kind of way.  They probably won't feel guilty having a one night stand with you.  You can always pull the being deported card, you could even get married out of it, my friends sister married a brit so he could stay here, although they really are a couple.  =)   
    Play the culture card, it will pay off, I've heard women in the US tell me they fucked a guy just for the accent, just don't try too hard, if they won't give you attention, fuck 'em.  Ask lots of questions, but in a caring and act like you really care.  If that doesn't work, try online dating.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: titoprince on September 24, 2013, 03:01 pm
A sense of humor's always good start  ;) Honestly, just be yourself, don't be overly keen, we do like to chase too  ;)

To quote Thomas Lansing, "Be yourself is about the worst advice you can give to some people." I'd aim for a better version of yourself. Keep your sensibilities, accentuate your character strengths. But also be aware of your flaws and the things about you that make you unattractive to average people (maybe you have a tendency to mumble when you speak or can be an asshole after too many drinks).

And if you want to meet someone who is a good fit, go the places you like to go. I club a lot, so meeting girls/guys in a club or bar is not a bad idea for me, because I know they're down to party too. My first date with my husband, I had him come with me to buy coke first and then we went to a party. It set the stage for sure.

And do not knock the online thing. I moved to a foreign country and managed to make tons of friends online. And not weirdo social retards, either. Cool people who just happen to be internet savvy. I'd highly recommend OKcupid. And if you need help summing yourself up in a profile, ask a good friend who knows you well. Also ask a female friend to help you with photos because, good god, adult men almost never know their flattering angles (why on earth would you take a photo from below? So you chin is the biggest thing in the picture? Why are you swinging a sword and wearing a cape? Why is this taken with a 2003 camera phone? Please, for the love of god, put your shirt back on! Do you think the lighting could be any darker? Yes your stupid close up of your eye is both cliche and aesthetically bland) ...whew, sorry about that rant.

Anyway, treat women like normal people and speak to us like you would a guy who've just met and think you could be good friends with. The foundation of any good relationship is going to be friendship. Compliments are obviously nice, but if you want to stand out from the dozens of creeps we encounter each day learn to take a hint. Meaning if a woman is sitting across from you on the metro and listening and avoiding your eyes and has her arms crossed, she doesn't want to be bothered. Also don't take it personally when you get shot down, even rudely. You never know when your perfectly polite greeting is following a drunk guy who yelled 'AY GURL CAN I LICK YO PUSSY' for seven minutes straight. And even if you're a totally nice guy, the not so nice ones tend to put us on guard and we're not always willing to take the risk required to find out if you're a normal person or total psycho.

Don't worry about getting shot down. It happens and it's much better to have someone reject you flat out than to wait until you've gone on a few dates and then admit they were never interested.

Also the shoulder massage sounds like terrible fucking advice, tbh. Maybe don't try it without wearing protection for your twig and berries.

God speed, broseph
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: LordBiron on September 24, 2013, 03:21 pm
Thank you for the advice guys/gals. Honestly I like to go to the club pop .2 of Molly an just dance, but I think I make it to obvious that I am on the prowl so maybe I should just do me? and let them come?
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: GGGreenbud on September 24, 2013, 03:28 pm
   You got it right there! act like you're just up for a good time, that's most likely what they are there for.  If they come up to you, act interested but don't try too hard.  Even if you come off a bit gay, it might break the ice and help.  You have to remember that almost all women are constantly being harassed by creepy douchebags with plenty of "game", don't be that guy, just be friendly and take it easy, mate!
      cheers!
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: thecatinthehat101 on September 24, 2013, 03:29 pm
Two words to google Mystery Method its a complicated subject but this is a great start.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: DefyCode on September 24, 2013, 03:54 pm
Thank you for the advice guys/gals. Honestly I like to go to the club pop .2 of Molly an just dance, but I think I make it to obvious that I am on the prowl so maybe I should just do me? and let them come?

Honestly it is waaay more appealing to see a guy who doesn't even notice you than to see a guy who is clearly 1) lacking self confidence and/or 2) roaming around looking for "someone"

Just sayin' :)
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: turdburglarSandwich on September 24, 2013, 04:10 pm
"Also the shoulder massage sounds like terrible fucking advice, tbh. Maybe don't try it without wearing protection for your twig and berries."

Srsly? I can't count the number of people who I have seduced with my hands and touch. When the PLUR is flowing, and the honeys are feeling their roll, its a given if they are touchy feelie normally, that this will be a great intro to the intimacy. Mebbe you just don't like being touched in public by a stranger.

The clubs I go to, the after parties I have been to, the gentle, not hungry touch is highly in demand. No copping a feel, first time out, no erogenous zones, see where I am going with this? Its all about establishing connection that is safe, and honoring the unspoken boundaries.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: titoprince on September 24, 2013, 04:29 pm
"Also the shoulder massage sounds like terrible fucking advice, tbh. Maybe don't try it without wearing protection for your twig and berries."

Srsly? I can't count the number of people who I have seduced with my hands and touch. When the PLUR is flowing, and the honeys are feeling their roll, its a given if they are touchy feelie normally, that this will be a great intro to the intimacy. Mebbe you just don't like being touched in public by a stranger.

The clubs I go to, the after parties I have been to, the gentle, not hungry touch is highly in demand. No copping a feel, first time out, no erogenous zones, see where I am going with this? Its all about establishing connection that is safe, and honoring the unspoken boundaries.

Ah, I didn't see the mention of drugs. If everyone on MDMA, that's totally different. But the thing is: if you're a stranger, you can't know whether or not someone minds being touched by strangers (assuming they're sober). And to just go for it, imo, is a really dick move and an invasion of personal space. So it's not the touching I object to necessarily, it's who initiates it and how. A lot of girls are extremely uncomfortable being touched by strangers but will play along so as not to make things worse.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: ImTylerDurden on September 24, 2013, 05:36 pm
Lol at all these people talking about picking up women when they are fucked up. You need to learn to pull pussy when you are sober, and when your female target is sober. As soon as you learn to take the pussy off the pedistal you will be a lot better off. Do yourself a favor and read "The Game" by Neil Strauss and watch all of RSD Julien's videos on youtube. Pulling women is a skill and once you learn how to do it, it becomes easier and easier with practice. The Game made me aware of everything, but Julien from Real Social Dynamics brought my game to the next level. If you can't go up to a random girl walking on the street and at the very least get her phone number within 5 minutes then you do not have game.

There will be a lot of haters of the material I just advised you, but watch a few of his videos and actually apply it to your every day life when you talk to women and you will 100% notice immediate results. They have it worked down to a science. It is almost pathetic because it just goes to show that most women are all programmed exactly the same and you can exploit this.

PM me if you want a deeper explanation.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: incubusdriver on September 24, 2013, 07:00 pm
"The Game" by Neil Strauss

Is it a bit like psychological date rape?
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: HitTheRoad on September 24, 2013, 09:09 pm
"The Game" by Neil Strauss

Is it a bit like psychological date rape?

Ha Ha, yeah, I might have a peek through an illegal download of it but It would make me feel like I've pulled a woman by studying how to go about it in a sneaky way as opposed to naturally or being natural about the whole "game" if you like!

Suppose it's a good tool for people who struggle with confidence and overall struggling to chat up a woman
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: livestr0ng on September 24, 2013, 09:12 pm
Am I the only one who thought, "Ew" after reading the title? Because, let's be serious, the title is does involve the word "girls".

Jokes aside, my advice as a random internet user that you'll never meet is don't "look" for a girl. Keep an open mind but my best relationship that I'm currently in started when she had a different guy as her boyfriend and I thought her and I were just friends.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: ImTylerDurden on September 25, 2013, 08:26 am
"The Game" by Neil Strauss

Is it a bit like psychological date rape?

It teaches your how to properly display your agenda and communicate in a way that is more attractive from a female's perspective. Instead of just telling someone to "be confident, have a sense of humor, etc", it breaks it all down for you in more understandable terms.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: titoprince on September 25, 2013, 12:41 pm
"The Game" by Neil Strauss

Is it a bit like psychological date rape?

It teaches your how to properly display your agenda and communicate in a way that is more attractive from a female's perspective. Instead of just telling someone to "be confident, have a sense of humor, etc", it breaks it all down for you in more understandable terms.

Could you make us sound just a little bit more like an alien species? Referring to women as 'targets' and your social interactions as 'displays of your agenda' just make you sound extremely clueless and like a possible date rapist. If I saw someone reading a book about 'gaming' women and this person appeared to be over the age of 15, I'd assume he has masculinity issues and/or very low emotional intelligence. In other words it's a huge *DO NOT WANT* sign. ymmv, of course.
Title: Re: Girls.........
Post by: GGGreenbud on September 25, 2013, 02:15 pm
   I understand "the game", but I do not like it.  For perspective purposes, it is often important to take a step back and realize what the other sex MIGHT want, and show them the best you.   I don't think most men learn how to flirt or how to meet a woman's emotional needs for that matter, I know I had to hang out with a group of women for about 4 years to figure that out(I didn't have many guy friends for reasons i won't get into) but it taught me many things.  You want to find someone who is into you, you don't want to make anyone do anything they wouldn't normally do, and it should be genuine.  There are just too many social constructs in the way, so us guys need to have the walls broken down and ELI5'd to us in order to understand what people want, and how to have a good relationship.  Ultimately, the goal is to find someone who fulfills your needs, as well as you fulfilling theirs.  I would shy away from anything on just picking up women, I don't think that is bad for a start, but you've got to have more than that, to get yourself into a real relationship.